Welcome to my Blog

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Thank you for finding your way to my online space.

It is my goal to create a page that is worthy of your valuable time.  Being a transformational guide in funeral service has led me to examine and test different theories and beliefs about life and death.  This space is dedicated to the challenge of experiencing transformational change – changing from old normals to new normals as a result of change in our lives.  With hope and love at its center, we celebrate and honor the journey.  Blessings on your journey.



Dream life

From my friends at TUT

Let me tell you what happens…
There’ll be trumpets, fanfare, and parades. Happy tears, giggles, and hugs. Shrieks of joy, fits of laughter, and reunions with best friends.
There will be quiet, reflection, and revelations. Aha’s! No-way’s! And, of course, You-have-to-be-kidding’s!
Eventually followed by a deep, often surprising, longing for what will by then be viewed as the dream-life you led.
You could plot it on a chart.
The point, of course, is that you are now living that dream-life.


From my friends at TUT
People who do all they can, with what they’ve got, from where they are, no matter how puny their actions, how tiny their steps, or how futile it may seem, simply have more fun.
Of course, to the uninitiated it doesn’t appear that way. To them it appears as if only those taking gigantic leaps, who drive cars with fancy wheels, have loads of friends, perfect bodies, and fly around the world in First Class Sleeper Seats, are having fun. But what they don’t realize is that we’re often talking about the very same folks, just at different points in their journey.
”Blessings on your journey”

Father’s Day

Father’s Day has come and gone.  As I acknowledged the day to my children, I recalled and shared with them that my father never told me he loved me, not once, never.  I told them that not hearing the words created this desire in me to get his approval, which often caused me to not feel good enough.  I told them that I wanted to make sure that I didn’t do the same thing to them.  Then, I told them I loved them, AGAIN!!!

”Blessings on your journey”


You are the light

We are all broken, that’s how the light gets in.

Ernest Hemingway

Yesterday I posted this quote on Facebook.  Today I have the privelage of walking the path with a family who are burying a son, father, ex husband and brother.  It would be easy to look at this younger mans life and judge, condem and blame him for his early death and life’s struggle.  We could also blame ourselves and others for we are all broken in some way. Yet, if we spent all of our time doing that, the light couldn’t get in.

As we process into church this morning, the family, pallbearers and friends will be there, holding space and love for each other.  We will participate in a ritual that we have been practicing since the beginning of time.  A ritual designed to bring meaning to our life’s journey.  A ritual designed to begin our journey from an old normal to a new normal.  A ritual to bring in the light, because we are broken.

I am the light, you are the light, we are the light, It is in our consciousness and hearts, yet up to us to hold up and shine it in this space.  Do not forget.

Bring in the light!

”Blessings on your journey”

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Close the door

Many of you might have heard that story about Thich Nhat Hanh; he has his monastery called Plum Village in France. One time when he was a young student, his teacher called him in to talk to him. When they were done, he walks out and as he was leaving, he leaves the door half-open, in his rush to go out. So his teacher calls him in and says, “Why didn’t you close the door? I asked you to close the door when you left.” All of a sudden it hit him that when he was closing the door, he was not closing the door. He wanted to get to some other place and that is why he was not fully there. To this day, he hasn’t forgotten that lesson. In fact, even to this day, people go to France just to watch him open and close the door, because he does it so completely. For him, the door is it. He is there. All his life comes down to that one point, when he’s closing and opening that door. He is just closing and opening that door. That is it. He has that detachment with outcome which lets him fully experience the present.

A similar story about Gandhi also represents having detachment with outcome, which allows for fully eperienceing the present. He was traveling to address the whole nation of India and on his way to make the speech, an English gentleman stops him and asks, “Mr. Gandhi, what are you going to speak of today?” He says, “I don’t know. I’m not there yet.” He was five minutes from the talk. He didn’t know because he wasn’t there (he hadn’t opened the door yet). His experience of reality was very spontaneous. It wasn’t planned. It wasn’t some things which go in a certain order. He was just saying things as they were, as they manifested themselves in this present moment.

Lets give this a try!!

“Blessings on your journey”