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Welcome to my Blog

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Thank you for finding your way to my online space.

It is my goal to create a page that is worthy of your valuable time.  Being a transformational guide in funeral service has led me to examine and test different theories and beliefs about life and death.  This space is dedicated to the challenge of experiencing transformational change – changing from old normals to new normals as a result of change in our lives.  With hope and love at its center, we celebrate and honor the journey.  Blessings on your journey.

Mark…

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Joy!

Joy – for our hearts!

From “Living and Dying” the book

I had the experience of living in a state of joy for two weeks around the time of my sixtieth birthday. I like to tell the story of a dream I had at that time, which is where the experience began. In the dream, I was having breakfast with my two-year-old grandson at my favorite diner in Livonia NY. He looked to me when he saw a bird fly by and asked me, “Ba Ba,” (he calls me Ba Ba,) and he really couldn’t talk in real life, “how come birds can fly?” My response was, “Because it’s their nature.” After a reflective pause in the conversation, I then asked my grandson, “What is our nature?” His immediate response was, “Our nature’s to love, Ba Ba” and then went casually back to eating his breakfast. As I let that moment of childhood innocence and powerful truth flow over and through me, an overwhelming feeling of love and joy filled my being. I could only think of one thing so I asked him, “How come so many of us don’t follow our nature?” He said, “It’s because we can think. Animals can’t think and when you can think, you can forget.”

The dream brought me tears of joy for weeks after as I truly saw only love everywhere and for everyone I came into contact with. Whether it was the checkout girl at the register, the gas attendant, my family, or friends, I could only feel joy and love for everyone, I was love in its fullest. It was during that time when I realized that we all have the choice to shape our experience into what it is that we want, and only we can make that happen for ourselves.

Weeks later I returned to the other world, the back and forth world of love and fear. Often when I felt removed from love, I would notice a sense of being lost which made me angry, unloving and in some way less than I wanted to be and feel. It was in this struggle with loss that I became aware of my own loss of connection.
When I felt lost I would spend time in my head trying to figure it all out. Why was it happening? What was wrong with me? Why, why, why? It was this back and forth activity ‘life’ that brought me to this place today.
What I learned and continue to learn is all of our struggles are merely opportunities for re-direction, re-orienting us to find our path. They are really a blessing, a gift. I soon realized that when I felt lost, it was only because I had lost my way—taken a detour off the main highway. Because it was such a frequent event in my life, I just didn’t really notice it.

The experience of those two weeks of pure love and joy brought me to a place where I now recognize more frequently that feeling of disconnection—and I don’t like it. If we can find a way to re-orient our attention with our source, getting back to that main highway, when we feel these things, we can find our way back. We can return to the place that connects us with all things in our universe, a perpetual energy zone where all things are possible. Maybe all we need is a good map!

“Blessings on your journey”

http://www.mkanthony.com

Life reviews

During one’s final life review, the most shocking thing for baby souls is discovering how much love they were ALWAYS bathed in… that they failed to feel.

For young souls, it’s discovering how much love they were ALWAYS bathed in… that they failed to feel.

And for old souls, it’s discovering how much love they were ALWAYS bathed in… that they failed to feel.

“Blessing on your journey”

http://www.mkanthony.com

Let’s talk!

Can we talk? There is so much to talk about today, but, do we really want to talk about it? And, do we know how to talk about it? Most people I know, want to maintain the status quo, and not rock the proverbial apple cart. I will often find myself becoming more aggressive and start lobbing subjective thoughts or opinions into conversations.  It has been, at times, a form of play for me, and I enjoy it. I like the intellectual engagement and sharing of ideas, which can be profoundly interesting and educational.  It can also be destructive and hurtful, depending on the people and the environment.   The key for me to a successful engagement is being open to listen to other viewpoints.  In my experience, most of the discussions that have failed are ones where one or both parties were not able to actively engage in listening to each other. The need to be right, a form of self preservation.

Being right has become such a monumental thing in our world, that I’m not sure we’re going to overcome it, I see it everywhere.

Am I right???

”Blessings on your journey”

http://www.mkanthony.com

Do you see what I see?

Today I’m taken by the colors, smells, and uniqueness of the season. The snow, the Christmas tree, the music playing in the background all familiar yet uniquely based on my experience with it. The people around me, what do they see and sense when they look out at the world around them? Do they sense and feel anxiety? Joy? Depression? Peace?

I’ve learned that we each see our own reality, through lenses unique to our past history, imagination, opinions, awareness. I began my experience today through my unique lens, “my reality” and I’m having it right now.

Today, I wanted to share the picture above which reflects my reality. Its not intended to have any opinions, judgments, or specific feelings attached to it, so feel free to attach yours.

“Blessings on your journey”

http://www.mkanthony.com

Reflection

A reflection from one year ago, Worth repeating!!!

Today I sit here in Florida, over looking the pool and the Ft Pierce Inlet.  It’s around 78 degrees, with 70% humidity and winds at 7mph.  From this view all indications point towards a delightful day of sun and warm weather, with the hope of some fresh caught fish for lunch.  Just behind me in the living space of the condo is the television spewing out story after story of a world gone wrong.  On my phone is a contractor not willing to take responsibility for his work.  People are dying, eight new families at our funeral chapel in the last 48 hours, challenged by personal loss. And, the list goes on.

I will go out into this day knowing that I can choose to bring the reflection of pain and hurt or love and acceptance.  I will make the effort to see the reflection of good in the people and world.  It will not change what I heard on tv for that is the past, but, it will change the future or what I see now.  It will require my effort and it will bring forth a miracle, I can already feel it.  This simple exercise of sitting quietly and writing has changed everything.  I invite you to do the same.

“Blessings on your journey”

http://www.mkanthony.com

We shall hear angels!

We shall find peace. We shall hear angels.
We shall see the sky sparkling with diamonds.” – Anton Chekhov

What would make me think I have anything to say or offer the world?

Perhaps its the one question we continue to ask ourselves that keeps us from doing just that thing.  Speaking up, telling our story, sharing our intimate thoughts, ideas, secrets is a scary place and one that leaves us feeling vulnerable and open to ridicule.

A good friend said to me recently that it would be a shame to die with your story untold, closed off to those who might care, learn or benefit in some way from that knowledge.

Do you ever wonder why your parents did this thing or that and their gone now, not able to answer that question?  I wonder what the hell mine were thinking!  How hard and painful their divorce was?  I wonder how having a judge grant custody to my father over my mother must have felt to her and why it came out that way. I never asked and they never said, I’m sure it was to painful for them and now I’m left to wonder.

Growing up in funeral service and helping people through transformational events in their lives has given me the confidence and awareness to share my story.  I mean why not? its very evident to me we all feel the same basic emotions of fear, pain, loss, joy, peace, etc.  Although our individual stories may be different the feelings are universal.  

“We shall find peace. We shall hear angels.” 

My first book “Living and Dying” is available online through my website, http://www.mkanthony.com  While I’ve already got my sites on the next book, it is a joy to be blogging as way to practice writing and sharing my thoughts, ideas and secrets.

Every day I wake up excited to venture out into the world with my thoughts.  As I sit here at the keyboard nothing specific is of mind, but after a moment or two “this” stuff comes tumbling out. It is my sincerest desire to bring more love into the world, and that is a good thing. I invite you again, to speak up, comment, live not die.

So, we all can see the sky sparkling with diamonds!

“Blessings on your journey”

This is life!

It’s believed Charlie Chaplin wrote the poem below at age 70. He pretty much said it all with this one…

As I began to love myself

I found that anguish and emotional suffering

are only warning signs that I was living

against my own truth.

Today, I know, this is Authenticity.

As I began to love myself

I understood how much it can offend somebody

if I try to force my desires on this person,

even though I knew the time was not right

and the person was not ready for it,

and even though this person was me.

Today I call this Respect.

As I began to love myself

I stopped craving for a different life,

and I could see that everything

that surrounded me

was inviting me to grow.

Today I call this Maturity.

As I began to love myself

I understood that at any circumstance,

I am in the right place at the right time,

and everything happens at the exactly right moment.

So I could be calm.

Today I call this Self-Confidence.

As I began to love myself

I quit stealing my own time,

and I stopped designing huge projects

for the future.

Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness,

things I love to do and that make my heart cheer,

and I do them in my own way

and in my own rhythm.

Today I call this Simplicity.

As I began to love myself

I freed myself of anything

that is no good for my health –

food, people, things, situations,

and everything that drew me down

and away from myself.

At first I called this attitude a healthy egoism.

Today I know it is Love of Oneself.

As I began to love myself

I quit trying to always be right,

and ever since

I was wrong less of the time.

Today I discovered that is Modesty.

As I began to love myself

I refused to go on living in the past

and worrying about the future.

Now, I only live for the moment,

where everything is happening.

Today I live each day,

day by day,

and I call it Fulfillment.

As I began to love myself

I recognized

that my mind can disturb me

and it can make me sick.

But as I connected it to my heart,

my mind became a valuable ally.

Today I call this connection Wisdom of the Heart.

We no longer need to fear arguments,

confrontations or any kind of problems

with ourselves or others.

Even stars collide,

and out of their crashing, new worlds are born.

Today I know: This is Life!