Welcome to my Blog

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Thank you for finding your way to my online space.

It is my goal to create a page that is worthy of your valuable time.  Being a transformational guide in funeral service has led me to examine and test different theories and beliefs about life and death.  This space is dedicated to the challenge of experiencing transformational change – changing from old normals to new normals as a result of change in our lives.  With hope and love at its center, we celebrate and honor the journey.  Blessings on your journey.




Three monoths ago I started writing a post on the inappropriate sexual behaviors of celebrities and people of power.  I have wanted to write about subjects surronding our sexual behaviors and thinking lately, yet I feel the world may be a bit to fragile right now.  Truthfully, I’m a little scared to write about it.

So, I opened my email and found this post from Madison Taylor.  In it you’ll find thoughts that connect to my post yesterday, and thoughts that can be applied to all the behavior we witness today.  Enjoy!

Blaming Others

We cannot insist that someone else take responsibility for their actions; only they can make that choice when they are ready.
As we begin to truly understand that the world outside of us is a reflection of the world inside of us, we may feel confused about who is to blame for the problems in our lives. If we had a difficult childhood, we may wonder how we can take responsibility for that, and in our current relationships, the same question arises. We all know that blaming others is the opposite of taking responsibility, but we may not understand how to take responsibility for things that we don’t truly feel responsible for. We may blame our parents for our low self-esteem, and we may blame our current partner for exacerbating it with their unconscious behavior. Objectively, this seems to make sense. After all, it is not our fault if our parents were irresponsible or unkind, and we are not to blame for our partner’s bad behavior.

Perhaps the problem lies with the activity of blaming. Whether we blame others or blame ourselves, there is something aggressive and unkind about it. It sets up a situation in which it becomes difficult to move forward under the burdensome feelings of shame and guilt that arise. It also puts the resolution of our pain in the hands of someone other than us. Ultimately, we cannot insist that someone else take responsibility for their actions; only they can make that choice when they are ready. In the meantime, if we want to move forward with our lives instead of waiting around for something that may or may not happen, we begin to see the wisdom of taking the situation into our own hands.

We do this by forgiving our parents, even if they have not asked for our forgiveness, so that we can be free. We end the abusive relationship with our partner, who may never admit to any wrongdoing, because we are willing to take responsibility for how we are treated. In short, we love ourselves as we want to be loved and create the life we know we deserve. We leave the resolution of the wrongs committed against us in the hands of the universe, releasing ourselves to live a life free of blame.

”Blessings on your journey”


Left alone

Many of you know the story of my birth mother and father divorcing when I was a child.  I’ve have had many years to play the story around in my head because I never heard the whole story from either parent. It was obvious that there was significant pain attached to their life story and family history, and I did not want to add more discomfort or stress to their lives.  It was obvious that just my presence was a reminder and difficult enough.  I had a good life growing up with my father and his extended family. I did not spend any time with my mother or her family until after I was married. Although I was never told I was loved by my parents, I experienced love from my family.

Lately I have been somewhat consumed by the fact there are no pictures, no history or evidence of me as a child with my mother and father.  As you can imagine its had its affect on me.  I have often given it thought as I examine the layers and layers of emotions and circumstance.  I have played out all the angles in my mind, I have imagined all the possibilities and difficulties leaving me with the only option, forgiveness.

“Blessings on your journey”


Shining the light

Over four months ago I started writing a daily blog about my thoughts, ideas, dreams and share with the world in an authentic way. Today I woke up a little dull and foggy with no specific thoughts or ideas to write about (nothing).  Rather than be panicked or concerned (OK, for maybe a couple minutes) I didn’t have anything to write, I just sat down and started writing.  I am so grateful to have learned to trust and believe in the light that shines in each of us, a light that is eternal, full of wisdom, love and peace. There are days when it shines bright and others where it is barley visible, but it is always there.  Today, it was barely visible, yet the longer I sit here and write, the stronger the light is getting.  My writing started out heading in many directions yet has morphed to this very simple and beautiful thought.  I feel good, at peace, clear headed and loving this moment. My light is shining.

Feeling light within, I walk.” ~ Navajo Night Chant

“Blessings on your journey”



Limiting beliefs?

Am I expanding or contracting? This is the thought I awoke with today.

To me, the idea of expansion means growth and contracting means loss.  These ideas or thoughts limit me and keep me from where I want to be.  I want to be and live in a world of infinite possibilities where there exist only expansion and growth.  Yet, my thinking or thoughts try to sabotage me daily.

We all have limiting thoughts and beliefs, and if we raise them up before our eyes we will not see the expansion and growth beyond. My waking thoughts today asked me to take a look at this, which allowed me to look beyond.

Truth is, I am less physically active in my business on a daily basis which makes me think at times that I am not needed.  This thought pattern quickly morphs into I am not good enough (my go to limiting belief) and a disappointment.  In this time of change in my life it is real easy to judge and compare my life now to the past, and when I do that I open the door to my limiting beliefs. Truth is, I am very much involved in the business, but as a support and advocate for its success and the success of my children who are being given the opportunity to manage it.

Truth is, I have hundreds of copies of my book “Living and Dying” in the hands of people all over the world.  I have friends and new acquaintances from all over the world following my daily blog through Facebook, Linkedin and email. While things continue to change I am slowly and cautiously changing with them.  Everything we do, every decision we make is always a choice between the limiting beliefs and the infinite possibilities that exist in the expansion.

I guess the point of all of this is that reinventing yourself is scary.  But, if the truth be known, we are expanding and reinventing ourselves every minute of the day.  It is our nature and design to change and grow and it is the miracle in forgiveness that allows us to transcend our limiting beliefs and connect with our true selves. Let us look to the expansion and growth of truth in the infinite possibilities and away from the contracting and limiting belief of fear.

“Blessings on your journey”


Dancing water

Every so often we get the opportunity to see water dance.  It is a beautiful reflection of vibrational energy.  When the wind blows you see waves moving in the direction of the wind, a force appearing to move the water in one direction or another.  Today the water appears to be jumping up and down as if in place (the dance), but when you look real close, it is still moving in the winds direction.  This dancing water has been present for many days this month.  It catches my attention and brings me a sense of joy and a smile to my face.  It reminds me that even when we don’t see movement in a familiar direction or way, there is still movement and energy present.  When we have those days of boredom, feeling down and inactive (which I’ve been having lately) it’s a good possibility we’re just not seeing everything and may be missing the dance!

”Blessings on your journey”


Wishing and wondering

Sometimes, I find myself wishing I knew what my life is going to look like or what gifts and challenges are going to be presented to me in the coming months or years. I try really hard to stay in the moment but on occasion my desire for more information gets in the way.  I dream and hope, I might consult psychics, tarot cards, and other sources in the hopes of finding out what the future holds. Usually, at most, I might catch a glimps.  And even though I think I would like to know the whole story in all its details, the truth is that I would probably be overwhelmed and fearful to know to much.

Other times I find myself wondering how long I’m going to even be here.  Interesting isn’t it?

”Blessings on your journey”



Cherish your visions; cherish your ideals; cherish the music that stirs in your heart, the beauty that forms in your mind, the loveliness that drapes your purest thoughts, for out of them will grow delightful conditions, all heavenly environment; of these if you but remain true to them, your world will at last be built. ~ James Allen

“Blessings on your journey”