Featured

Welcome to my Blog

This is the post excerpt.

Thank you for finding your way to my online space.

It is my goal to create a page that is worthy of your valuable time.  Being a transformational guide in funeral service has led me to examine and test different theories and beliefs about life and death.  This space is dedicated to the challenge of experiencing transformational change – changing from old normals to new normals as a result of change in our lives.  With hope and love at its center, we celebrate and honor the journey.  Blessings on your journey.

Mark…

post

Left alone

Many of you know the story of my birth mother and father divorcing when I was a child.  I’ve have had many years to play the story around in my head because I never heard the whole story from either parent. It was obvious that there was significant pain attached to their life story and family history, and I did not want to add more discomfort or stress to their lives.  It was obvious that just my presence was a reminder and difficult enough.  I had a good life growing up with my father and his extended family. I did not spend any time with my mother or her family until after I was married. Although I was never told I was loved by my parents, I experienced love from my family.

Lately I have been somewhat consumed by the fact there are no pictures, no history or evidence of me as a child with my mother and father.  As you can imagine its had its affect on me.  I have often given it thought as I examine the layers and layers of emotions and circumstance.  I have played out all the angles in my mind, I have imagined all the possibilities and difficulties leaving me with the only option, forgiveness.

“Blessings on your journey”

http://www.mkathony.com

We’re not perfect

I’m feeling very vulnerable today. Truth is, this feeling has been going on for a few days now, and it leaves me feeling very unsettled. There has been a number of things going on. Energetic highs and lows, emotional upheaval and new opportunities to step out in new exciting directions. Dramatic change in a world full of energetic upheaval and fear.

Being one who likes to resolve and process life in a swift and direct manner, I find it difficult to navigate at times. My thoughts, energy and mannerisms not understood or welcomed, hinder me and cause me distress. There are many times when I just want to get a big glass of wine and go to sleep, or check out in any way. I know it’s me and I know I’m doing it, yet sometimes I can’t stop, it’s a part of who I am.

We all have been programmed through our families, life experiences, cultural times of our upbringing and obstacles faced. What we’ve learned and how we’ve learned to deal with them is what we should be focusing on. We see daily in our news the same programming in our clergy, politicians, entertainers, and everyday people who struggle with that part of them, it’s part of who they were or are, their life’s experiences.

So, as we continue to navigate the cultural discussions, and changes the world is offering up around us everyday let’s remember, we are all a product of who and where we came from. Let’s remember, that who we were is not necessarily who we are now and that we can change, as uncomfortable and unsettling as that is. Let’s remember we’re not perfect, that we’re flawed, broken and looking for redemption, acceptance and love.

“Blessings on your Journey ”

http://www.mkanthony.com

Dancing waters

Every so often we get the opportunity to see water dance.  It is a beautiful reflection of vibrational energy.  Typically when the wind blows you see waves moving in the direction of the wind, an invisible force appearing to move the water in one direction or another.  Today the water appears to be jumping up and down as if in place (the dance), but when you look real close, it is still moving in the winds direction.  This dancing water has been present for many days this month.  It catches my attention and brings me a sense of wonder, joy and a smile to my face.  It reminds me that even when we don’t see movement in a familiar direction or way, there is still movement and energy present.  When we have those days of boredom, feeling down and inactive (which I’ve been having lately) it’s a good possibility we’re just not seeing everything and maybe missing the dance!

”Blessings on your journey”

http://www.mkanthony.com

Embrace it all

Yesterday I received a comment from a dear friend suggesting there are some things that never can be forgiven. She said you can accept it and move on but forgiveness is not always possible.  If after asking the three universal questions that’s what you come up with, so be it, that would be your resolution

What would You have me do?

Where would You have me go?

What would You have me say, and to whom?”

I have found for me that forgiving others is essential for my spiritual growth. Wayne Dyer says this about forgiveness: “Your experience of someone who has hurt you, while painful, is now nothing more than a thought or feeling that you carry around. These thoughts of resentment, anger, and hatred represent slow, debilitating energies that will dis-empower you if you continue to let these thoughts occupy space in your head. If you could release them, you would know more peace.”

As many of you know my mother gave up custody and all contact with me at the age  of three years old.  I will not bore you with the details (you can read about that in my book) but there was a time when I thought I could never forgive my mother or any parent who could do that to their child.  I use this as an example of how my thinking allowed me to carry thoughts of resentment and anger around with me that would surface from time to time.  On occasion I have flashbacks of these thoughts and my experience but for the most part I am at total peace with her, and the events that created it.

My three questions,

What would you have me do?  Love her, love my father, my family and the circumstances, but most importantly love myself

Where would you have me go?  I was moved to connect with her and her family at the age of 28 and more importantly, moved to be the best husband and father I could be!!

What would you have me say and to whom?  Tell both my parents and those who raised me that I love them. Tell my children I love them regularly.

Wayne Dyer among other many wonderful teachers I worked with in my life time were a great gift to me.  All of life’s experiences moved me forward on my spiritual path.  They provided me a vision and direction to move in.  Here is what Wayne Dyer says about our history.  “Your past history and all of your hurts are no longer here in your physical reality. Don’t allow them to be here in your mind, muddying your present moments. Your life is like a play with several acts. Some of the characters who enter have short roles to play, others, much larger. Some are villains and others are good guys. But all of them are necessary, otherwise they wouldn’t be in the play. Embrace them all, and move on to the next act.”

”Blessings on your journey”

http://www.mkanthony.com

Forgiveness

For the last few days I have been writing about releasing and throwing out HATE and FEAR.  Another way to look at releasing hate is letting go of grievances.  Holding grievances is one of the roadblocks to our plan for freedom and transformational change.  If we are willing to let go of grievances, we can expect to change the very fabric of our human existence, and I believe we can and will do this in my lifetime. I also have come to believe this transformational change happens in its own time.  There are no guarantees we will wake up tomorrow transformed and no reasons why that isn’t possible.

One of the main players in our transformational journey is, “Forgiveness.”  Forgiveness is an idea often misunderstood but needed to be better able to work on our own healing.  One of the more memorable forgiveness events I can remember is the Amish school shooting in Pennsylvania in October 2006.

From NPR Investigations:

It was in the tiny community of Nickles Mines that a man stormed into a one-room schoolhouse and shot 10 young girls, killing five. He then killed himself.  Since the tragedy, people around the world have been inspired by the way the Amish expressed forgiveness toward the killer and his family.

Forgiving the Killer

Charles Roberts wasn’t Amish, but Amish families knew him as the milk truck driver who made deliveries. Last month, it was announced that the Amish community had donated money to the killer’s widow and her three young children. It was one more gesture of forgiveness, gestures that began soon after the shooting.

(Donald Kraybill, is a sociologist at nearby Elizabethtown College and co-author of Amish Grace: How Forgiveness Transcended Tragedy.)

“I think the most powerful demonstration of the depth of Amish forgiveness was when members of the Amish community went to the killer’s burial service at the cemetery,” Kraybill says. “Several families, Amish families who had buried their own daughters just the day before were in attendance and they hugged the widow, and hugged other members of the killer’s family.”

(Jonas Beiler, is the founder of the Family Resource and Counseling Center.)

Tragedy changes you. You can’t stay the same,” Beiler says. “Where that lands,you don’t always know. But what I found out in my own experience if you bring what little pieces you have left to God, he somehow helps you make good out of it. And I see that happening in this school shooting as well. One just simple thing that the whole world got to see was this simple message of forgiveness.”

Beiler says that because the Amish can express that forgiveness, and because they hold no grudges, they are better able to concentrate on the work of their own healing.

 

I leave you with todays lesson from the “Course in Miracles,” which speaks to the leap of faith these loving people made. Today’s lesson presents us with one of the greatest ‘prayers’, one of the greatest guidelines for action within the illusory universe that we can ever apply to any situation we appear to encounter at any place or any time. These words will give us the appropriate and specific response to absolutely any situation in which we feel the need to choose the guidance of our higher self.

“What would You have me do?

Where would You have me go?

What would You have me say, and to whom?”

 

 

”Blessings on your journey”

http://www.mkanthony.com

It’s all in the release!

Back in my youth I had a fascination with balsa wood airplanes. The simple little fighter planes where you affixed the tail and main wings into a thicker balsa wood body. If you tilted the wings in a certain direction they would fly in loops, circles or wide turns.

On occasion I was fortunate to get the large plane, the one with the long rubber band and propeller. This was the Cadillac of balsa wood flyers in my day. The long rubber band and propeller would keep the plane in the air for much longer and could, if not handled and launched properly, find its way into the trees or on to the cottage roof. My life back then had many moments retrieving things from the trees and the roof, it got to the point where we would leave the ladder out.

Like everything in life, how we launch our day, idea, conversation, plan, business etc etc will create an affect. It can be a smooth flight or a bumpy one, “It’s all in the release”

I can remember the fascination and joy of having and playing with these simple machines. I try to bring that same energy to all I do. Sometimes it’s a smooth flight and sometimes not. My job is to keep the plane out of trouble but retain the joy and fascination of the flight. Giddy-up

“Blessings on your journey”

Www.mkanthony.com

It’s all in the release!

Back in my youth I had a fascination with balsa wood airplanes. The simple little fighter planes where you affixed the tail and main wings into a thicker balsa wood body. If you tilted the wings in a certain direction they would fly in loops, circles or wide turns.

On occasion I was fortunate to get the large plane, the one with the long rubber band and propeller. This was the Cadillac of balsa wood flyers in my day. The long rubber band and propeller would keep the plane in the air for much longer and could, if not handled and launched properly, find its way into the trees or on to the cottage roof. My life back then had many moments retrieving things from the trees and the roof, it got to the point where we would leave the ladder out.

Like everything in life how we launch our day, idea, conversation, plan, business etc etc will create an affect. It can be a smooth flight or a bumpy one, “It’s all in the release”

I can remember the fascination and joy of having and playing with these simple machines. I try to bring that same energy to all I do. Sometimes it’s a smooth flight and sometimes not. My job is to keep the plane out of trouble but retain the joy and fascination of the flight. Giddy-up

“Blessings on your journey”

Www.mkanthony.com