Welcome to my Blog

This is the post excerpt.

Thank you for finding your way to my online space.

It is my goal to create a page that is worthy of your valuable time.  Being a transformational guide in funeral service has led me to examine and test different theories and beliefs about life and death.  This space is dedicated to the challenge of experiencing transformational change – changing from old normals to new normals as a result of change in our lives.  With hope and love at its center, we celebrate and honor the journey.  Blessings on your journey.



Love is still alive!

Authentic love challenges us “to run the risk of a face-to-face encounter with others, with their physical presence which challenges us, with their pain and their pleas, with their joy which infects us in our close and continuous interaction. When we can block out the ugly sounds of the world with our earphones, our perceptions remain shallow.  When we can skim and scroll through our news, we do not have to internalize the suffering of others and, in turn, prevent ourselves from suffering under the unbearable brokenness of our world. When we can “friend” mere acquaintances or total strangers on social media and then — if necessary — “unfriend” real friends without the hard work of encounter, confrontation and reconciliation, then our relationships become superficial, artificial and incomplete. Love is messy, gritty, and at times it hurts but most importantly it requires action.  If you are feeling tested, hurt, tired or depressed, (insert other words here) then, it is a time to learn how to love again. This can go beyond creed or faith. It is an invitation to everyone who wants to find the fullest measure of living. Now is a good time to ask ourselves what we can do to enrich our sense and practice of loving.

But whether we see it or not today, LOVE is still alive. It is alive in anyone who has suffered intense loss and kept moving, who has made the decision to love another with no promise of a reward, who has doubted the existence of God and yet prayed anyway and who has endured suffering for the sake of someone else and found great strength in doing so.

“Blessings on your journey”



The way we show up in life

Here is a post from 2 years ago when I’d just began my blogging journey!!

Yesterday was a great day.  A great day because as I get closer to my commitment of blogging for 100 days I’m becoming more willing to add texture and content about our outer world to the message.  I beleive that a conversation takes place within all of us about life and its issues all the time, and how best to navigate the journey.  There is this crazy spinning around social media, politics, economy, weather, you name it, there is spinning. While I don’t know exactly what I’m going to do after the 100 days I’m excited to have successfully navigated 88 days of dialogue and authentic expression. No one HATES me (ok maybe a few, lol) and I’m OK.  The world has not ended and I feel safe and confident that we will somehow endure.  We can have faith, we can love ourselves and each other and by taking one step at a time make life much easier to navigate.  That is my quest.  After all, the years of our lives do not arrive all at on once, they greet us day by day.  The way we show up for our lives today and tomorrow has an enormous affect on who we will be and what we will be experiencing years from now. If we can remain fully engaged in the day at hand, enjoying all it has to offer and putting our energy into making the most of it, we will find that we are perfectly ready and capable to handle any future when it arrives.

Thank you for coming along on this ride and let me know where you might like to go next.  I realize that it is hard work for everyone, but I am fully committed and willing to engage and learn.  The journey continues and I welcome your thoughts and input.


“Blessings on your journey”


That place where love lives

I couldn’t get up fast enough this morning to start writing because a story line has been percolating inside me for some time.  It also conveniently ties into the message from the Course of Miracles today which was, The job of Spirit is to literally heal our faulty perceptions in such a way as to allow true forgiveness to take place.

Today my story line is about the issue of abuse, its cause and effect.  In and around our world we can find daily examples of abuse, both physical and emotional, it is a part of our human condition. I have said things, been mean etc. to my kids, wife, employees, parents, friends etc.  While that has not resulted in any physical hurt or injury, its emotional abuse still leaves scars.  Those scars I carry with me and keep me aware of what I am capable of, and conversely what I do not want to be or represent in the world.  I also believe our behavior leaves scars on those we love and care for.  While I have done my share of scarring others, I also have been scarred, by parents, friends, family etc.  It is part of the human condition, which you’ll find is most often connected to frustration, anger and poor self esteem to name a few.

Every day as we go out in the world we get to choose how we want to live in the world. The message in today’s Course of Miracles reminds me again.  The job of spirit is to literally heal our faulty perceptions and allow for true forgiveness. This needs to be our full time job.

When the human condition presents chaos and abusive conditions and behaviors, we can still have inner peace and maintain a sense of calm in a sea of unrest. Turning inward to Spirit (away from the human condition) we can become whole again, and heal our faulty perceptions in such a way as to allow true forgiveness to take place. I find that in times of chaos, abuse and confusion, I’m able to find that part of myself that knows how to cope, and how to be a light to others in the storm.

That place where love loves.

“Blessings on your journey”



How we love ourselves and each other

Today I awoke with more thoughts about healing and about how we love ourselves and each other.

Often times when we express ourselves or speak of struggle or turmoil, we feel moved to tell those affected, how we should be or what we should do to correct it. Truly, if we could be one way or another, we would, and we would do it effortlessly.  I know what I speak of because as I look at some past experiences, I too have offered my life supportive and brilliant advice to many.  I do it because I think I’m really great at seeing peoples errors and fixing things in life, and perhaps I am.  It makes me laugh that we would think we can fix people or have any affect on others by offering our advice or thoughts on self improvement.  It also makes me laugh to think of why I did it.  While not 100% of the time, often I did it to free myself of witnessing their struggle. I also did it because it was frequently a reflection of a similar error I was having in my own life’s experience.  So really, who was the one who needed fixing?

Although I have spoken of this many times before, It is important to hear again. We are here to love each other, and that is all.  The love will do the work much easier and effectively then anything we could say or do.

Love ourselves and each other with all our successes and with all our seeming failures, love ourselves and each other with all our faults and struggles and love ourselves and each other with all the baggage too. At times that is a tough road to travel.  Sometimes it leaves us tired and hurting, sometimes it fills us with joy and peace.

If today is a struggle for me in any way, I’m going to just love that, and if today is a wonderful expression of joy and peace, I’m going to love that too.

”Blessings on your journey”



Celebrate, Honor and Heal

From my book “Living and Dying”

Times are continually changing and I am spending some very focused and purposeful time establishing a new direction for our funeral business. It is obvious to me that we all need to focus on the connections in our relationships, with each other and ourselves. It is through this effort that we realize cooperation, and the opportunities for continued healing. It is also obvious to me that we must engage in experiencing the struggles and challenges in our life to maintain a healthy life.
Marcel Proust is quoted as saying, “We don’t receive wisdom; we must discover it for ourselves after a journey that no one can take for us or spare us.”

Our new vision/mission statement is CELEBRATE life, HONOR the journey, and HEAL the mind body and spirit. Everything we do has to resonate with any one or all of these concepts.

Celebrate life means very clearly, LIFE in all of its conditions. Celebrate the experience, the love, the joy and peace, but also the pain, the suffering, the loss whatever the level or appearance. It is through the discovery of loss that we realize how much we loved, and that is a really good feeling, don’t miss it!

Honoring the journey is one of my favorite parts of the process of connection because it reflects the life experience we create as we navigate life’s journey. Personally, I have submerged myself in the stories of my life and have learned to re-write and edit along the way. If we can truly see our life as an honor, if we can truly embrace every moment good or bad and experience it to its fullest, we can experience a transformation. In my practice of this, it always leads to a place of surrendering, letting go of the painful thoughts that haunt me leaving me in a new, sometimes unfamiliar place, the new normal. Life was never intended to be perfect because we can’t control it. In fact, when do we really learn the most? When things are going great or when there’s a little challenge thrown in.

Healing the mind, body and spirit. Our daily experiences in living, loving, hurting and healing are so interconnected and happen so fast that we don’t even notice or actively embrace our role in this power to heal ourselves. It is important to distinguish what I mean when I use the term healing, healing to me means to “become whole again,” “complete.” When our lives are disrupted, or compromised in any way we experience a change from an old normal to a new normal a “loss.” Healing takes a conscious effort of realizing where we are, where we want to be and then developing a strategy to get there.


”Blessings on your journey”


Our impact on the world

Yesterday I spoke of the scattered and stirred up world and my responsibility of taking action towards healing, beleiving that each of us has a unique part to play in the healing of the world. After I finished writing it, I got this from the Daily OM in my mail.  I thought it applied to yesterdays message, I hope you like it.

Life is sculpted on a moment-to-moment basis. Every one of the thoughts we think, the words we speak, and the actions we take contributes to the complex quality and character of the universe’s unfolding. It simply is not possible to be alive without making an impact on the world that surrounds us. Every action taken affects the whole as greatly as every action not taken. And when it comes to making the world a better place, what we choose not to do can be just as important as what we choose to do.

For example, when we neglect to recycle, speak up, vote, or help somebody in immediate need, we are denying ourselves the opportunity to be an agent for positive change. Instead, we are enabling a particular course to continue unchallenged, picking up speed even as it goes along. By holding the belief that our actions don’t make much of a difference, we may find that we often tend to forego opportunities for involvement. Alternatively, if we see ourselves as important participants in an ever-evolving world, we may feel more inspired to contribute our unique perspective and gifts to a situation.

It is wise to be somewhat selective about how and where we are using our energy in order to keep ourselves from becoming scattered. Not every cause or action is appropriate for every person. When a situation catches our attention, however, and speaks to our heart, it is important that we honor our impulse to help and take the action that feels right for us. It may be offering a kind word to a friend, giving resources to people in need, or just taking responsibility for our own behavior. By doing what we can, when we can, we add positive energy to our world. And sometimes, it may be our one contribution that makes all the difference.

”Blessings on your journey”


Healing the world we live in

With all of the politically charged behavior surrounding us daily, I did hear something interesting that struck a chord within me. During a panel discussion, one of the panelist commented that President Trump was not as interested in healing as much as he was stirring things up, and that strikes a chord. We see many politicians (on both sides) acting like school children, we see people protesting and fighting, inalienable rights being challenged, constitutional interpretations argued and we’ve had some people even blame the President for our extreme weather, amongst other things !!! I’m sure some of you (and you know who you are) could add more to this list, but that is not my point in this post. My point is, the world we live in has changed, and changed dramatically and while I don’t profess to have the answers, I also know our current path and behaviors won’t foster healing solutions. I do see the need for me to step up, and see where my responsibility is.

I believe my responsibility is grounded in healing. All of the issues I have with our world, and some I didn’t think I had, are being presented to me to actively heal. It is my responsibility and I believe all of ours to do the healing work. All of those on the right and left, the deplorables and the intellects, the men and the women need to have a dialogue. Not a dialogue or argument with others, but a dialogue with ourselves. We need to hit the reset button and really look honestly at our feelings, because it is these feelings being created by our thoughts that we need to actively heal. Perhaps in time, we can honestly have a conversation about these things, I hope so. If we have hatred and fear in our heart and thoughts we will have hatred and fear in our world.

To create a new world is hard work.

“The world as we have created is a process of our thinking. It cannot be changed without changing our thinking” – Albert Einstein

“Each of us has a unique part to play in the healing of the world.” ― Marianne Williamson

Join me!

“Blessings on your journey”