Welcome to my Blog

This is the post excerpt.

Thank you for finding your way to my online space.

It is my goal to create a page that is worthy of your valuable time.  Being a transformational guide in funeral service has led me to examine and test different theories and beliefs about life and death.  This space is dedicated to the challenge of experiencing transformational change – changing from old normals to new normals as a result of change in our lives.  With hope and love at its center, we celebrate and honor the journey.  Blessings on your journey.




Ten days ago my wife Nancy had a heart attack. It turns out to be a rather rare event in its complexity (SCAD if you want to read about it), and one that should allow her to return to her normal way of life. This week is dedicated to getting back to work, driving, etc. and meeting with her medical team to monitor and discuss her current and future health position. She will have to continue monitoring for at least the next month, and her strength and energy levels should continue to improve over the next few months. While it’s understood she will have to adjust her activity levels and rest more often, there will be a period of time for healing needed. It is also my week to get back to work and address my own current and future health and healing position too.

Today, I’m beginning to realize and accept the fact that the trauma Nancy and I went through last week while affecting her in obvious ways, is still affecting my performance. I have not wanted to commit the effort to writing about it because I haven’t had the energy to revisit the story. I am having headaches, still feeling tired and my patience levels are getting low. I am just beginning to watch the news and pay attention to what is going on in the world around me, And, I’m just beginning to get back on my diet of healthy eating (had a lot of ice cream over the past week, lol). I’ve also realized my mental acuity has been affected as I’ve been missing turns or heading off in the wrong direction while driving.

When one enters the world of trauma, it puts the body and mind through stressful times, all inherently designed to serve us. The medical environment of University Medical Centers, while remarkable in so many ways, is a world where we do not normally live and brings with it a sense of uncertainty and fear associated with questions and unknown possibilities. Questions like, “What happened? why am I here? why am I broken? will I be OK? will I die?” Surrounded by tens of hundreds of other broken people connects us to the world of human frailty, “the human condition”, we are born and we will die, sooner or later.

Today, I have spent all morning to get this much written, so I will pause for now and continue tomorrow, but I’ll leave you with this. When our world is visited by life’s trauma we have within us the capacity to live and breathe through it.

“Blessings on your journey”


Life’s review

During one’s final life review, the most shocking thing for baby souls is discovering how much love they were ALWAYS bathed in… that they failed to feel.

For young souls, it’s discovering how much love they were ALWAYS bathed in… that they failed to feel.

And for old souls, it’s discovering how much love they were ALWAYS bathed in… that they failed to feel.

“Blessing on your journey”


There is no scorekeeping!

There is no scorekeeping.

Everyone lives each day for him or herself, no matter what they did.

No one owes anything to anyone, no matter what happened.

And from this, what I hope we most get, is that whatever we do next, we do it for the joy it brings us.

Rock on,

“Blessings on your journey”


I know we can do better!

Over a year ago (actually a year and two weeks) I started on a 100 day journey to share my inner most thoughts in a public forum.  I did this to share my authentic and honest viewpoint about what was spinning about in my world.  Some days there is just so much spinning, I don’t know where to begin.

In my dreams, I thought a lot of people would read and share my blog, and share in the conversation.  Many of you have, and continue to, inspiring and energizing me to continue each day. But really, how impractical is it to have those kind of expectations. I’ve always believed the saying “expectations equal limitations”. I try everyday to make my world and the world I live in a better place. I wish only good things and success for everyone, and I try to really care. For now, and in this very moment, I accept the struggle in our minds and the conflict in our actions, knowing that resistance builds and strengthens the egos resolve. It is a gift to be here, and it is the choices we make that create the world we see and live in. Everyday I try to see and be the best I can be.

I know we can always do better. Giddy-up

“Blessings on your journey”


Energy and Joy

Children provide us a view of un-restricted love and joy.  Young children don’t learn sadness and fear early on, they are left alone to shine for years.  They see everything for the first time, and are enthralled by the most simplest of things. They don’t get fed the daily news or our negative thoughts and opinions.  It is not hard to see in them this beautiful light shining and we don’t want to extinguish it.  This morning, I feel I need to move out in that light and wanted to share with you this abreviated  post I wrote 20 days ago.

Today, was filled with lots of energy and joy.  Is it because I got a lot done that I had been perseverating over? Or, because I didn’t want to be depressed and scared any more.  Some days I just get up and deal with it because I don’t want to accept feeling depressed and scared all day.  Other days, I like staying home and wallowing in it.  Today, I decided to take the leap, to take the day and achieve some greatness, and boy did it feel that way.  I was up before 6am and didn’t hit the pillow until 11pm, unheard of these past few months.

Today the blessings to me were energy and joy, and I’m just going to accept that and be grateful.

I’d like to make that my new normal!  How you doing with that?

“Blessings on your journey”


Here’s a post I did one year ago today, about a place we were supposed to be but instead, we’re at the local medical center. I’ll share that story tomorrow when I have more time!!

Today I’m taken by the colors, smells, movement and vastness of the local environment. The way the tide reacts in the inlet, the sun reflecting off the sea, the smells of salt water and rotting sea weeds, similar yet unique based on our unique experience with it. The people around me, what do they see when they look out at the world? What do they sense and feel?

I’ve learned that we each see our own reality, through lenses unique to our past history, imagination, opinions, awareness. I began my experience today through my unique lens, “my reality” and I’m having it right now.

Today, I wanted to share the picture above which moments ago was my reality. Its not intended to have any opinions, judgments, or specific feelings attached to it, so feel free to attach yours.

“Blessings on your journey”


The good news!

The holidays can be a stressful time for people.  For many years I would go in and out of depression around thanksgiving and christmas, following the familiar patterns of my family.  I tried excessive drinking and abusive behavior to feel better (familiar patterns), but to no avail.  After many years, I made a conscious effort to change that pattern.  I learned a new way to embrace the holidays by “being” the gift of peace, joy and love.  When I try and play the old way again, I always loose.

The good news is, yesterday is past and there is always a new day.

Throughout our lives, we have opportunities for transcendence and transformation! When we change the form of the thought or behavior holding us back, we learn and discover some higher order of capacity.  Giddy-up

Our lives are formed not just by the conflicts that we’ve experienced, but by the ones we’ve not resolved – Ken Cloke

“Blessings on your journey”