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Welcome to my Blog

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Thank you for finding your way to my online space.

It is my goal to create a page that is worthy of your valuable time.  Being a transformational guide in funeral service has led me to examine and test different theories and beliefs about life and death.  This space is dedicated to the challenge of experiencing transformational change – changing from old normals to new normals as a result of change in our lives.  With hope and love at its center, we celebrate and honor the journey.  Blessings on your journey.

Mark…

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Around the universe

If you change the way you look at the world, the world you look at changes.

Change your thinking to knowing that your life matters, and that you are important. It can be easy sometimes to buy into the illusion of our own insignificance. But nothing could be further from the truth. Every single one of us matters tremendously. Our very existence affects countless people in countless ways. And because we are each essentially a microcosm of the larger universe, our internal experiences affect the whole of life more than we could ever imagine. The world simply could not exist as it does now if you, or any one of us, were not in it.

Perhaps on some level you believe your life does not matter. If this thought resonates with you, join the club and the journey, it happens to the best of us. This one belief in your own unimportance could be limiting you and impacting your life in enormous ways. When you shift your perceptions around your own ability to affect your life and impact the world, you may discover wonderful parts of yourself that you had long ago forgotten. There may even be exciting new parts that you never even knew existed.

I know what it’s like. I’ve seen it played out a few zillion times: You’re waiting for that magical day when someone makes the connection and recognizes who you really are. Maybe they’ll first catch the sparkle in your eye. Or perhaps they’ll marvel at your insights and the depth of your spirit. Someone who will help you connect the dots, believe in yourself, and make sense of it all. Someone who will understand you, approve of you, and unhesitatingly give you a leg up so that life can pluck your ready, ripened self from the branch of magnificence.

Ahhhhhhhhhhh…

Well, I’m here to tell you, your wait is over. That someone is you.

Good thing you rock.

”Blessings on your journey”

http://www.mkanthony.com

The job of the spirit

Here’s a post from a year ago that still has some teeth. Giddy-up

Day 87

I couldn’t get up fast enough this morning to start writing because the story line has been percolating inside me for some time.  It also conveniently ties into the message from the Course of Miracles today which was, The job of Spirit is to literally heal our faulty perceptions in such a way as to allow true forgiveness to take place. I have been writing about healing for the past few days now and it keeps coming up, so maybe we need to keep hearing it in different ways for it to sink in or make sense.  Although the story line is one of intense and emotional content it is a timely one and will require much more dialogue then you’ll find here.

Today the story line is about the issue of abuse, its cause and effect.  Recently some men have been removed from their jobs for being abusive.  Not sexually as in so many other cases but physically and emotionally abusive to their wives.  These men were employees of the White House and subsequently linked to Donald Trump.  I would like to go on record that I believe abusive behavior is not acceptable in any situation.  I also want to acknowledge that there have been times in my life when I have been abusive.  I have said things, been mean etc. to my kids, wife, employees, parents, friends etc.  While that has not resulted in any physical hurt or injury, it usually leaves scars.  Those scars are still present with me today and keep me aware of what I am capable of, and conversely what I do not want to be or represent in the world.  I also believe our behavior leaves scars on those we love and care for.  While I have done my share of scarring others, I also have been scarred by parents (my mother left me as a baby, my father beat me with his umbrella), friends family etc.  It is part of the human condition and I find it connected to frustration, anger and poor self esteem to name a few .

Every day as we go out in the world we have to choose how we want to live in the world. The message in today’s Course of Miracles reminds me again.  Healing our faulty perceptions and allowing for true forgiveness is a full time job for me.

This past year, I have been in the presence of individuals that have HATE in their hearts for Donald Trump.  I mean real HATE, the kind of hate that turns ones stomach…. as I sit and listen to them I can actually see and feel the hate.  I can even feel it in posts on facebook and it scares me becasue I have never had HATE like that in me for anyone or reason.  I also recently saw a YouTube video of a mother spanking (beating) her child in a shopping mall.  I was going to attach the video but it’s to disturbing.  While I can’t relate to the HATE, as a parent I have had moments when my children have pushed me to the edge of good sense and objective behavior.

What are we to do?

As a society we can take away peoples rights and livelihood, but, are we supposed to be judge and jury for every event that we struggle with or when we witness a moment of ill intended actions.

When the world is in chaos, we can still have our own inner peace and maintain a sense of calm in a sea of unrest. The job of Spirit is to literally heal our faulty perceptions in such a way as to allow true forgiveness to take place. Often, times of confusion are the times that enable us to find that part of ourselves that knows how to cope, and how to be a light to others in the storm. It helps to remember that we don’t need to completely understand what’s happening right now, nor do we need to be able to predict the future. Most of us just want to find our way to being at peace with whatever happens, and we can find this peace inside.  Heal our thinking, to allow true forgiveness.

“Blessings on your journey”

http://www.mkanthony.com

Today it could be you!

Every so often members from my flow group from 2 years ago check in with each other and get caught up on how we are adjusting and living our authentic lives. The most remarkable part to me is how connected and alike our journey seems to be and how committed we are to each other’s well being and success.

It makes me think that all of our journeys are alike, in that we all are connected and trying to adjust to living authentic lives. Yet, unlike certain friends and group members, some of us do not seem as committed to each other’s success and well being.  If we were, our conversations  and communications would be much different.  There could be acknowledgment of our accomplishments and struggles and affirming words of support and belief in each other.  There could be little criticism or judging, only love. And, there could be selfless acceptance of each other’s beauty and the gift we are to each other.

Just think, Today It could be you!!

”Blessings on your journey”

http://www.mkanthony.com

Healing the World

Yesterday I spoke of the scattered and stirred up world and my responsibility of taking action towards healing, believing that each of us has a unique part to play in the healing of the world. After I finished writing it, I got this from the Daily OM in my email.  I thought it applied to yesterdays message, I hope you like it.

Life is sculpted on a moment-to-moment basis. Every one of the thoughts we think, the words we speak, and the actions we take contributes to the complex quality and character of the universe’s unfolding. It simply is not possible to be alive without making an impact on the world that surrounds us. Every action taken affects the whole as greatly as every action not taken. And when it comes to making the world a better place, what we choose not to do can be just as important as what we choose to do.

For example, when we neglect to recycle, speak up, vote, or help somebody in immediate need, we are denying ourselves the opportunity to be an agent for positive change. Instead, we are enabling a particular course to continue unchallenged, picking up speed even as it goes along. By holding the belief that our actions don’t make much of a difference, we may find that we often tend to forego opportunities for involvement. Alternatively, if we see ourselves as important participants in an ever-evolving world, we may feel more inspired to contribute our unique perspective and gifts to a situation.

It is wise to be somewhat selective about how and where we are using our energy in order to keep ourselves from becoming scattered. Not every cause or action is appropriate for every person. When a situation catches our attention, however, and speaks to our heart, it is important that we honor our impulse to help and take the action that feels right for us. It may be offering a kind word to a friend, giving resources to people in need, or just taking responsibility for our own behavior. By doing what we can, when we can, we add positive energy to our world. And sometimes, it may be our one contribution that makes all the difference.

”Blessings on your journey”

http://www.mkanthony.com

A new world

While I’m not ready today to take on the topics of the border wall, the me too movement, the opioid crisis or state of our union, I did hear something interesting yesterday I wish to comment on. During a panel discussion on the current state of politics, one of the panelist commented that President Trump was not as interested in healing as much as he was stirring things up and that strikes a chord. We see politicians acting like school children, we see people protesting and fighting, people losing their jobs as a result of inappropriate behaviors and organizations we’ve always held in high esteem being discredited. We’ve had some people even blame the President for our extreme weather!! I’m sure some of you (and you know who you are) could add more to this list, but that is not my point. My point is, the world we live in has changed and changed dramatically and while I don’t have the answers, I also don’t blame anybody. I do however see the need to step up, and I see where my part and responsibility is.

I believe my responsibility is in the healing. All of the issues I have with myself, our world and some I didn’t think I had are being presented to me daily, to actively heal. It is my responsibility and I believe all of ours to do the healing work. All of those on the right and left, the deplorables and the intellects, the men and the women need to have a dialogue, not a shouting match with others but a dialogue with ourselves. We need to hit the reset button and really look honestly at our feelings, because it is our feelings, created by our thoughts that we need to be responsible for and heal. Perhaps in time we can honestly have a conversation about these things, I hope so. If we have hatred and fear in our heart and thoughts we will have hatred and fear in our world.

To create a new world is hard work.

“The world as we have created is a process of our thinking. It cannot be changed without changing our thinking” – Albert Einstein

“Each of us has a unique part to play in the healing of the world.” ― Marianne Williamson

Giddy-up!

“Blessings on your journey”

http://www.mkanthony.com

Avoidance

I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but I haven’t been writing a lot lately. I’ve been thinking about it, but not doing it, what’s with that??

Today I’m sitting here saying WRITE! And its taken me all morning to do it. I’ve found as with most of our habits or practice that the more we procrastinate or avoid doing things, the harder they are to do. It’s almost like the practice of avoidance becomes the new habit. What are you avoiding?

“Blessings on your journey”

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Pain

During the past few days and most recently today, I’ve heard from friends regarding loss and struggle in their lives. These life altering situations create tremendous stress, and pain in our lives. With my prayers and the hope and belief in healing and love, I share these thoughts.

I recently read a great article on the idea of pain, be it physical or emotional it resonates in a very big way.  Here’s a taste!

Pain comes and it goes. It is just one component to the grand cycle of life. And when experienced as such, pain can serve as an important teacher. It is when we get stuck in our pain that it becomes detrimental to our well-being and development. If you notice that you feel closed-off, resentful, heavy-hearted, or that you try very hard to avoid being hurt again, there may be a part of you that is still stuck in pain.

We can get stuck in our pain for many reasons. As children, it was natural for us to cry, throw a tantrum, and let the experience move through us. By fully feeling our pain in this way, our emotions would wash us clean, leaving us open and available to new experiences. With age, though, we might have determined that expressing emotion was no longer appropriate, and so we developed a variety of coping strategies to deal with our discomfort. We may have learned to stuff our feelings down or to run away from them. Perhaps we began thinking that staying closed and unwilling to try new things would keep us safe from heartbreak, safe from rejection, and safe from failure. We may have even gotten so used to being in pain that the thought of being without it scares us. But, if we continue to hold onto it longer than necessary, we are expending a lot of energy that could instead be channeled into making our life experiences more positive.

If you notice that you are continually connecting with the same familiar patterns of pain, consider embracing your feelings and letting go of your hurt. Whether your pain is from childhood or from an experience last week, see if you can give it room to move. When it does, you will reconnect with a wonderful source of your own vital energy.

Remember, Pain comes and it goes. It is just one component to the grand cycle of life. And when experienced as such, pain can serve as an important teacher.

”Blessings on your journey”

http://www.mkanthony.com