Welcome to my Blog

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Thank you for finding your way to my online space.

It is my goal to create a page that is worthy of your valuable time.  Being a transformational guide in funeral service has led me to examine and test different theories and beliefs about life and death.  This space is dedicated to the challenge of experiencing transformational change – changing from old normals to new normals as a result of change in our lives.  With hope and love at its center, we celebrate and honor the journey.  Blessings on your journey.



What’s your excuse?

Summer has been my excuse for not writing daily, or so it seems. The only problem with that is my minds thoughts and ideas haven’t taken the same break, producing within me a feeling of guilt and not living fully in the moment. I’ve realized all along that writing was a great vehicle for me to express my authenticity and truth, and by sharing openly I was doing my part in bringing hope and a sense of normalcy to a world in need of both. I’ve also realized that it takes significant effort and time to do so.

Perhaps you haven’t noticed, perhaps you have, perhaps you are doing the same thing, perhaps its a good thing, perhaps its a bad thing, perhaps it doesn’t really matter, perhaps it matters. Perhaps its all of the above. I believe that we experience all of these ideas in life, generating fear, peace, indifference, love, etc. It is a fundamental reality of human existence.

I also believe that as we live our lives, we store the history of fear and angst and we store the history of love and peace caused by our reactions to events and the feelings created by those experiences. Those experiences can cause us to be critical, cause us to question, cause us to get stuck in self doubt, and conversely cause us to expect and chase love and peace in our lives. Living is tough work.

Quite often in life’s events, we can find ourselves ill-prepared to deal with these events emotionally. When this happens these emotional experiences and feelings get added, (recorded) to our history. They become part of who we think we are, and the baggage we drag through our existence. It can shut down our ability to feel, it can cause behavior and emotional instability so difficult to handle we need to fill the void with drugs, hurtful behaviors and situations. No need to give any more examples here, just take a look around.

The solution I feel we need to consider is practicing gratitude. You’ve all heard about the sentiment of gratitude, we all know about it, but do we practice it? It’s hard sometimes because life’s hard sometimes and we carry a history of feelings and experiences that affect our behavior. There are days that I don’t even realize I’m depressed and I don’t know why. Now, I know that my feelings of depression, despair, unworthiness etc. are probably just part of the baggage I’ve been dragging around. By knowing that, I can set it down, put it aside for a moment and turn my attention to where the good is happening around me. I can alter my direction and adjust my feelings (we all can do this). At first its hard and uncomfortable, it requires practice and if the truth be known, I want it to be easy.

“Blessings on your journey”


From the mouths of babes

From my 9 year old grandson Brooke’s: If you win at something in sports or life take time to be grateful and acknowledge it !

From my 8 year old granddaughter Elly: Start by being thankful for the simple things, your family, the air, the water, someone supporting and caring for you.

“Blessings on your journey”



Spiritual growth can take place anywhere, if you are open and ready to learn and receive.

Many spiritual seekers feel called to far-flung places across the globe in the interest of pursuing the path of their enlightenment. This may indeed be the right course of action for certain people, but it is by no means necessary to attaining an enlightened consciousness. Enlightenment can take root anywhere on earth, as long as the seeker is an open and ready vessel for higher consciousness. All we need is a powerful intention, and a willingness to do the work necessary to moving forward on our path.

From my friend madisyn

”Blessings on your journey “


Honoring ones wishes

In the world of funerals and end of life issues I often hear families saying they want to “honor” the wishes of the deceased.  Often, those wishes are very limited because they just relate to the handling of the body, buried, cremated etc.  They also might be limited because there had been little if any discussion about these end of life plans.

“Honoring” is a very important and significant part of end of life issues, yet can get very consfusing without some understanding of circumstances and reflection on family dynamics. When we are confronted by end of life events in our family we can often feel like our world is out of control. It can present itself in many ways such as medical emergencies (falls, accidents, etc) where in the blink of an eye our world is turned upside down and everything changes.  We can feel out of control by having to rely on others to help us navigate through life experiences we have little if any experience with (nursing homes, hospitals, funeral homes, etc).  And, the number one reason for feeling out of control and the most significant evidence we have is not being able to sustain life indefinitely, dying.

Loss of control can physically shut us down, numb us to a point of malfunction and sometimes is all families are emotionally capable of.  Yet, If one is able to relinquish control and go with the flow of the human experience, it can open a door to the most remarkable and life affirming experience one can imagine.  While honoring ones wishes have value, please remember, it’s really about honoring ones life and how they lived it.  If done well honoring and celebrating life can affirm meaning and purpose that connects us with love, hope and a peace that passeth all understanding.

“Blessings on your journey”