From my book “Living and Dying”

This newfound communication was different and much more emotional. It was felt! It was not unlike the experience I’d had with joy around the time of my sixtieth birthday, and it was good.

Sometime during that discovery period, my partner and I were having our annual business meeting and we had one of our infamous yelling matches. Our advisors had seen this before and were great at getting us through our personal reactions. After that meeting, I was moved to do something different. I invited my partner to join me for lunch and a round of golf to further discuss any issues or concerns he felt we needed to attend to. I really wanted to care and listen because I wanted to lead with my heart. We had a great lunch that went on too long to play golf, and as I was driving out of the parking lot on my way home I had a revelation. This was the first time in over thirty years as partners that I’d had lunch with “my cousin,” not my business partner. When I got home I found a picture with us and all our cousins on bicycles in the neighborhood.


This picture still hangs up in my home office. I can remember like yesterday all the years together as kids at the lake and the way his family had taken me in before my dad remarried. I remembered that we came from a place of connection, family first, and that whatever happened in business doesn’t change that. There’s no erasing family and the memories that are there. That’s what leading with your heart does! It reconnects you with what is important; it opens the channel to caring, loving, and realizing what is “really” important. It is what is available to our world today. Author Alan Cohen is quoted as saying “We attain freedom as we let go of whatever does not reflect our magnificence. A bird cannot fly high or far with a stone tied to its back. But release the impediment, and we are free to soar to unprecedented heights.”

”Blessings on your journey”

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