Yesterday I received a comment from a dear friend suggesting there are some things that never can be forgiven. She said you can accept it and move on but forgiveness is not always possible. If after asking the three universal questions that’s what you come up with, so be it, that would be your resolution
What would You have me do?
Where would You have me go?
What would You have me say, and to whom?”
I have found for me that forgiving others is essential for my spiritual growth. Wayne Dyer says this about forgiveness: “Your experience of someone who has hurt you, while painful, is now nothing more than a thought or feeling that you carry around. These thoughts of resentment, anger, and hatred represent slow, debilitating energies that will dis-empower you if you continue to let these thoughts occupy space in your head. If you could release them, you would know more peace.”
As many of you know my mother gave up custody and all contact with me at the age of three years old. I will not bore you with the details (you can read about that in my book) but there was a time when I thought I could never forgive my mother or any parent who could do that to their child. I use this as an example of how my thinking allowed me to carry thoughts of resentment and anger around with me that would surface from time to time. On occasion I have flashbacks of these thoughts and my experience but for the most part I am at total peace with her, and the events that created it.
My three questions,
What would you have me do? Love her, love my father, my family and the circumstances, but most importantly love myself
Where would you have me go? I was moved to connect with her and her family at the age of 28 and more importantly, moved to be the best husband and father I could be!!
What would you have me say and to whom? Tell both my parents and those who raised me that I love them. Tell my children I love them regularly.
Wayne Dyer among other many wonderful teachers I worked with in my life time were a great gift to me. All of life’s experiences moved me forward on my spiritual path. They provided me a vision and direction to move in. Here is what Wayne Dyer says about our history. “Your past history and all of your hurts are no longer here in your physical reality. Don’t allow them to be here in your mind, muddying your present moments. Your life is like a play with several acts. Some of the characters who enter have short roles to play, others, much larger. Some are villains and others are good guys. But all of them are necessary, otherwise they wouldn’t be in the play. Embrace them all, and move on to the next act.”
”Blessings on your journey”