From my book “Living and Dying”
“Go out, go out I beg you and taste the beauty of the wild. Behold the miracle of the earth with all the wonder of a child.” Edna Jaques
A good friend offered me a thought she had after reading this book, and it goes like this: “There are times when we want to shield the ones we love from pain. But the only true way to healing is through our pain. It is through our connection to those we have lost that we are able to find a peace in our hearts. It is through our connection that we ultimately find our peace”.
She also went on to say, “Connection exists in life, in death, and all places in between.”
I am personally very grateful for her input and openness because it reflects her willingness to embrace her connection and transition through life. It shows her willingness to live a life of emotion, experience, living in the moment, with an openness to change and growth in the midst of personal pain. A close and personal love was taken from her just a short time ago as it will and has happened to all of us. It is apparent that it is a challenge and a difficult transition as we work to understand the perplexity of life and death as we navigate our time, moment to moment, day to day. It is apparent that it is hard to embrace a new normal in forging new relationships while maintaining ones of old. Yet, I am confident that we can and will find a way. I am confident for her because she has acknowledged that the only true way to healing is through her pain. It is this simple truth, as difficult as it may seem at times, that will set all of us free.
“Set yourself free from anything that might hinder you in becoming the person you want to be. Free yourself from the uncertainties about your abilities or the worth of your dreams, from the fears that you may not be able to achieve them or that they won’t be what you wanted.
Set yourself free from the past. The good things from yesterday are still yours in memory; the things you want to forget you will, for tomorrow is only a sunrise away. Free yourself from regret or guilt, and promise to live this day as fully as you can.
Set yourself free from the expectations of others, and never feel guilty or embarrassed if you do not live up to their standards. You are most important to yourself; live by what you feel is best and right for you. Others will come to respect your integrity and honesty.
Set yourself free to simply be yourself, and you will soar higher than you’ve ever dreamed.”
– Edmund O’Neil
“Blessings on your journey”