Are you the one who’s right?

From my friend Zat Rana,

Almost everybody has some sort of an attachment to some sort of an identity that conforms to generalized rules of operation. Even when we don’t explicitly state it, we do often live it.

While it’s tempting to think that our ideology is the right one, and, the one that should be enforced on others, the chances are that this belief is borne more from a self-centeredness we are not even aware of than the fact that we have an objective, moral high-ground.

There is no way to get out of this zero-sum game if you begin from a position of establishing dichotomies. The only way to truly win is to understand: What makes others different from you? What cultural forces are you not accounting for? How do we better integrate each side?


“Blessings on your journey”


How we think, from Lesson of History

From the book, “The Lessons of History”

“Each of us faces different challenges at different times in different ways based both in our biology and our unique cultural upbringing. No two people think exactly the same way because no two people have lived exactly the same life”.

“Real change doesn’t happen until we face our minds and our thoughts”.

“How we think affects everything from our ability to solve problems to how we understand meaning, value, and purpose.”.

“The only real revolution is in the enlightenment of the mind and the improvement of character, the only real emancipation is individual, and the only real revolutionists are philosophers and saints”. Giddy-up

“Blessings on your journey”

What makes you an American

What makes us an American?  What underlying principle defines us and connects us with all Americans?  What thought, idea or principal can we identify that crosses all personal, physical, emotional, spiritual barriers? Tomorrow is Veterans Day, a day where we honor those individuals who served America with their time, commitment and at times their life. What was it that motivated and moved them to serve? What were they willing to do that took them away from a carreer path, family, or put them in harms way.


Our country was built on sacrifice. Sacrifice, to surrender something of value as a means to gaining something more desirable. In times of struggle and change you will always find people willing to sacrifice for a common good. Tomorrow we should be willing to set aside a moment to remember and be grateful. Remember that there is a common good we all desire and grateful there are those willing to sacrifice. Giddy-up

“Blessings on your journey”

What if it gets to bad?

It think the thing people want the most (if being really honest) is to have others be in agreement with them. It helps limit conflict and helps us feel good, safe and accepted. We feel settled in agreement, we feel normal, less anxious and fearful, we feel safe, not alone. We crave this place of peace, we need this peace.

This need for agreement directs and leads us down paths of least resistance and can seemingly, help us create a safe place, our “normal” place of familiarity. Yet, as we travel this path of least resistance we can become distracted and annoyed with people or situations that pull us towards disagreement. We can feel threatened, scared, unsettled, anxious etc. all of the things we want to eliminate in our lives. We can even think others are the cause of our feelings, we can start to blame others and hate others for their disagreement. Our worlds can literally be turned upside down, chaotic, in our inability to control it. We can even kill if gets to bad.

“Blessings on your journey”

Election Day!

Now with the midterm elections over and the house flipped to the Democrats, maybe we can find some peace again.  Our government was designed to provide checks and balances so as to encourage negotiation and compromise.  If our representatives can find a way to work together now, it’s possible we can actually be represented.  We’ll see.

“Blessings on your journey”

Confessions of a button pusher

I must admit, I’m a button pusher, and just the other day someone called me out and asked me “what’s up with that?”

Well, here you go, I have always been a button pusher.  As long as I can remember, I have challenged and explored spiritual, mental and emotional limits and boundaries, in myself and others.  I have always believed that I have within me all I need for peace, happiness and success, and it was in times of personal despair, or struggle, that I learned to endure and find my way the most.  I learned that pushing buttons, (ie. struggling, hurting, challenging our thinking, suggesting change) could be fun, help me grow, and bring forth clarity, fulfillment and peace.  I also learned that pushing buttons could be hurtful and a little scary at times, yet, I always assumed and hoped that it would bring about good, and the world would be a better place because of it. It was, and is like a drug, I needed to do it.

My life long story, has been a series of button pushing, challenging and transformative events causing me to adjust and change many things, most importantly, my thinking.  One thought that I find most meaningful is, even in my most desperate and dark times, I have never felt lacking of anything (ok, maybe a little resentful, moody and angry at times, but not lacking).  Rich or poor, weak or strong, I have always known there was a spark of resilience within me that would eventually and magically turn itself into a flame, and shine a bright light in the world.  My hope has always been and continues to be “If we can get past our judgments, resentments, our destructive thinking and hurtful behavior, we can find that spark of resilience within all of us.”  I’d like to change again, I’d like to stop pushing buttons.  Little help?


”Blessings on your journey”