Do you have PTSD? My I

Do you have PTSD? Here is a definition of PTSD from MIND for better health, “When something traumatic happens in your life, it rocks you to the core. The world is no longer a safe place. It becomes somewhere that bad things can and do happen.

I believe that there are many of us traversing these varying degrees of human emotional and physical reaction to change in our world. The obvious atrocities of war which are most often associated with PTSD are what we most often refer to, yet I believe there are many other events that evoke similar levels of internal stress and upheaval.

When you go through something you find traumatic it’s understandable to experience some symptoms associated with PTSD, this is sometimes described as an ‘acute stress reaction’. Many people find that these symptoms disappear within a few weeks, but if your symptoms last for longer than a month, you might be given a diagnosis of PTSD.

Look out for warning signs

You might see a change in your behavior or the person you want to support. For example:

  • a change in mood, such as getting easily upset, angry or irritated
  • a change in performance at work, such as lateness or missing deadlines
  • a change in energy levels, such as extreme alertness or a lack of concentration.

If you notice these sorts of changes in someone close to you, you could ask them how they are feeling. This might encourage them to open up. Personally, I have noticed some of these signs along with the feeling that the world is no longer a safe place, and bad things do happen and could happen to me. So, being that I self diagnose so well, (I play a doctor on Tv πŸ™‚ and having noticed most of the warning signs listed above, I am moving to a place of recovery.

Here are a few suggestions for overcoming stress in your life.

β€œMore smiling, less worrying. More compassion, less judgment. More blessed, less stressed. More love, less hate.” 
― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart

“In times of stress, the best thing we can do for each other is to listen with our ears and our hearts and to be assured that our questions are just as important as our answers.” 
― Fred Rogers, The World According to Mister Rogers: Important Things to Remember

“The world as we have created it is a process of our thinking. It cannot be changed without changing our thinking.” 
― Albert Einstein

“I believe we all have the capacity to heal through our choices in life, the key is being willing”

—Mark Anthony

“Blessings on your journey”

The world needs us!!

For many weeks now, I have been waking up every day with a sense of despair and fear. It feels like a deep pit in my stomach and fear, unworthiness, despair, insecurity, (insert your adjective here) lives there. There are days where I just can’t get a grip on my thinking, which is being fed by this feeling of fear. Where is this sense of fear and despair coming from, why am I waking up feeling this way, what can I do?

This past week I have decided to try and change my focus and thinking, and its starts with what I watch on TV. Wayne Dyers famous quote comes to mind “If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”

Being an interested observer in the human condition, I have been enthralled by the human, political and emotional exchanges happening on the “opinion” run news channels. It’s quite possible this exchange of negative energy, name calling, hate, and hurt has created serious damage on my psyche, and I would dare say our (your) world. We are empathic beings, we are designed to feel, and our choices about what we engage and participate in is our only control. It makes sense if we are consuming hours of negative, hurtful human exchanges we’re going to feel it.

After over five days of choosing and limiting what I watch, I can honestly report that I am feeling much, much better.

The world needs us to be feeling positive, hopeful, joyful, peaceful, and loving!! Join me!!

“Blessings on your journey”

Awaken us!

There is a lot of dysfunction, anger, anxiety and fear flowing through the universe and the world around us. You’ll notice, I write a lot about depression, sadness and struggle, and here’s why I do this. Having been a steward to grief, and being given the privilege of guiding people down grieving paths has changed me. I have learned so much and am so grateful for having had this opportunity, and this is my way of giving back. Here is a quote by Steven Tyler that speaks to one of my life’s key beliefs, “Every life has a measure of sorrow, and sometimes this is what awakens us.”

I believe that everything that happens to us and affects our lives has purpose, and is an opportunity to grow our awareness, ie. Awaken us.! How we navigate these trying times is perhaps the most significant lesson because it is the manner in which we choose to travel that leads us down life’s paths. There will always be many different routes, detours and paths under construction, and there will always be a final destination.

Another quote from Steven, “Maybe life is random, but I doubt it.”

“Blessings on your journey”

Sadness and depression

Depression has reached epidemic proportions. The story we’re telling ourselves about ourselves is no longer convincing, it’s no longer serving us (man is that the truth for me!).

We’re like a fragmented hard drive, we’re barely ever in the zone, barely ever connected to something greater than ourselves. Maybe we have lost our way, maybe we have gone as far as we can, maybe our triumph as innovators and engineers has brought us to this point and now we need something more. The tales of old, the narratives that used to cloak us in an existential blanket, don’t provide us with the fundamental explanation of who the f____k we are? And what we’re meant to do.

It’s been published that 800,000 people are committing suicide a year now, according to the United Nations, which is more than the the numbers of people who die from natural disasters and armed conflicts. More people are more depressed, more anxious, crazy, not able to get out of bed in the morning oppressed by the stranglehold of their own spirits, what is going on? I don’t know. I can empathize, I’ve had my share of panic attacks, my share of heartache, I’m having my crisis of meaning, my share of distress. And, yet here I am, not perfect, flawed, but committed to writing and communicating daily, weekly. Here I am trying to make sense of it all. This is a journey, and we’re in it together, the alternative is unconsciousness, the default setting, the rat race, the constant gnawing sense of having had and lost some infinite thing.

Tell your friends and family to join me at as we navigate this incredible time. Perhaps there is a cure on the way, perhaps what we need is a vastly different approach, perhaps the new space is “inner space” and perhaps together we can figure it out. With Hope, Love and Willingness we can accomplish anything!!

“Blessings on your journey”

Thanks, Jason Silva!!

Political comment for the day !

My political comment for the day

If people could only glimpse the unimaginable depth of the great love they were born of, and to which they’ll swiftly return, and they realized that their choice to be “here” was made from the zenith of their own intergalactic brilliance, and they understood how much more their lives have made possible for others who will follow, I do believe they’d cut themselves a bit more slack, smell more flowers, and hold more hands.

“Blessings on your journey”

Diamonds on the soles of my shoes

People say I’m crazy. Why do we need to get angry, mean and hurtful? Is it because we hurt, feel alone or feel inadequate? Is it because we need to be right, important or better than the other guy? Our role in the world is to navigate these confusing times. We’re here to talk to each other, care about each other, and work together. We’re here to co-create.

Well that’s one way to lose these waking blues. Diamonds on the soles of my shoes! (Paul Simon)

People say I’m crazy!

“Blessings on your journey”

Stop, touch and feel!

This weekend has been unique for me in the finger lakes region. Bright sunny and cool golf weather, turning to cold damp and dreary. Steeple Chase races and art shows. Boating, turkey dinners with the neighbors and times spent preparing for winter at the cottage. Often I take for granted all of the unique and wonderful experiences surrounding me. Much like the fall colors there are many different shades and textures in our everyday life. It’s nice to stop and see – stop, touch and feel all of it.

“Blessings on your journey”