We think we listen, but very rarely do we listen with real understanding, true empathy. Yet listening, of this very special kind, is one of the most potent forces for change that I know.

– Carl Rogers –

How often do we really listen? When we listen with real understanding and true empathy, we have to drop our opinion, judgment, responsibility, take the time (as long as it takes) and just listen. Listening with real understanding and empathy is one of the most respectful and loving things we can do for another human being. Done well it has the potential of changing our world “ when we change the way we look at the world, the world we look at changes”. This is a very special space and one that opens the door for growth in all of us.

My wish for our world today is to truly listen, listen as if it’s the only thing you need to do. It is one of the most potent forces for change that I know.

“Blessings on your journey”

A rite of passage

Think of death as a rite of passage.

In the days before effective medicine, our ancestors were guided by books and customs that framed dying as a spiritual ordeal rather than a medical event. (One of the West’s first best-selling self-help books, published in 1450 in Latin, was titled “The Art of Dying.”) A spiritually mature individual was expected to contemplate it ahead of time. Without abandoning the best of what modern medicine has to offer, return to that spirit. Don’t reduce the end of your life to a medical procedure or strip it of ceremony and humanity. Make sure you live and die as a full human being.

“Blessings” on your journey

Holding space

Many of us must remember that we can only do so much for someone, as we are all here experiencing life in multiple dimensional frequencies.

We are all perceiving reality as a collective with our own unique way of translating our experience. It’s important to remember that holding onto the idea that it is our responsibility to save anyone is however a very difficult space. It’s a form of resistance in the natural order and process of personal evolutionary growth.

It’s by living in our own unique authenticity while holding the space for those as they learn through their personal experiences the very fabric and structure that growth is birthed.
I invite you to the idea of letting go of any attachments you may have surrounding being responsible, while holding the space of unconditional love and acceptance for all beings on the level and degree of their own personal journey of transformational growth…

“Blessings on your journey”

Listen !!

From my book “Living and Dying”


“The earth has music for those who listen.”
― George Santayana

Where do we go from here?
What can we do now?
If we see love in our everyday life, the world becomes a loving world. If we see hatred and suffering in our life, the world becomes one filled with suffering and hatred.
Reflect on our connection with how we get where we are, and where we are going and go there.
Reflect on our connection with emotions and how we feel and live a life of feeling
Reflect on the effect of our thoughts and how they affect the energy and connection in our world and become a participant
Reflect on how our connection in our world is created by our experience in our world.
Reflect on the connection of thought and emotion.
Reflect on your connection to all things and places.
Reflect on your connection to memories and the affect they have on you, in your world
Consider that we may need to create a new version of ourselves. At any time, we can redefine ourselves. We get to pick

“Blessings on your journey “


Religious beliefs play a significant role in an individual’s grief journey. For some, answers are found in the griever’s connection with their religion, congregation and God. For others simply being connected to rituals, traditions and customs while grieving provides comfort and understanding.

Frequently grievers experience emotional conflict between religious beliefs and mourning the loss of a loved one, especially if it was a sudden or tragic death. Often they are looking for answers from questions that really don’t have answers. 

In my continued journey of helping those who are grieving, I have come across many grievers who struggle with an inner-conflict relating to their religion. As time goes by, these conflicts will resolve themselves with either a new path or restoring their faith.

“Blessings on your journey”

Morning treadmill

Treadmills are an amazing piece of equipment that you can run or walk on. Regardless of your speed you maintain a forward momentum. The belt provides a soft landing with each foot and the electronic controls allow you to set the speed and elevation that is appropriate for your fitness level.

Now imagine the same treadmill is your life filled with drive, thrust and energy. When one day you lose someone close and the treadmill of life continues but you don’t have the strength, willpower or determination to hang on – you fall! The belt continues to rotate and the treadmill continues to move but you are no longer on the treadmill. The fall causes a few scrapes and bruises that will eventually scab and fall off and someday you will find the strength of mind to get back on the treadmill and re-join life!

“Blessings on your journey”


Thank you!

There are many people in the world that hold and carry light. When they turn and shine their light towards me, I feel safe, needed and valued. When they turn to go I can never forget how I felt in their presence. And when they turn back I can feel that same familiar light as if it never left.  These people have an outward-looking perspective, they direct their gaze and light beyond themselves and into our living experiences.  Like listening and sharing, they build a framework of existence that is inter-dependent. Thank You!

“Enveloped in Your Light, may I be a beacon to those in search of Light. Sheltered in Your Peace, may I offer shelter to those in need of peace. Embraced by Your Presence, so may I be present to others”.


“Blessings on your journey”