Today I have thoughts about animation. In my meditation this morning I remembered the experience of euthanizing our dog Lucy.  It then progressed to my parents deaths and all the deaths I am privelaged to be apart of every day in my work. There is an energy, a power that emanates from the physical presence of each one of us.  It is a power that animates everything in our world.  When we see a body that has died we experience an inanimate object.  In Lucy’s case, I first asked that she be sedated so she would lie down, then as I stood there petting her and comforting her with my hands lovingly supporting her head, I experienced the life force leave her body as the injection stopped her courageous and loving heart from beating.  Her physical presence changed in an instant from soft, to hard and I could feel her energetic body move from a lifted light position to a deflated heavy one.  That energy shift is dramatic and moving, it is the same for all of us, It is normal, and a part of life.

It poses many questions, And often few specific answers.

Yet this I know. Life is to be lived, animated. Giddy-up

”Blessings on your journey”

A new song to sing

From my book ‘Living and Dying”

Over the years, the funeral profession has brought me to places I never imagined I would be. I am routinely asked to enter into situations where the family unit is under great stress, at a time when the pain and strain on the family is at an extreme. I am asked to help people travel down a road that even I have not yet traveled. Day after day, there are new situations, new personalities, new pains, struggles and new stories. I’ve been directed to answer the big questions about life and death. At times, I have struggled with how to bring these ideas into my everyday life for those that I serve. It’s been like a master class in life, but after over thirty-five years I realize that it has taken its toll. My body is sacrificially scarred from the emotional and physical trauma of people’s lives. Yet at this point in my life, I somehow feel a strength and resolve, a new resurgence of energy and renewal. Although my body can’t take the pace as it once did, it has found a new rhythm and a new song to sing—and it is good. It is about passion, direction, movement, and love of our connection. In this new place there have been many new lessons, new awakenings and sense of peace. The old adage, “energy follows thought,” rings very true for me. Whatever I put my attention on is brought forth, whether it is lack or abundance, pain or joy.

”Blessings on your journey”

All shall be well

All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well…for there is a Force of love moving through the universe that holds us fast and will never let us go.  JULIAN OF NORWICH

Life, may not what we see, but what we’ve projected. It may not be what we’ve felt, but what we’ve decided. It may not be what we’ve experienced, but how we’ve remembered it. It may not be what we’ve forged, but what we’ve allowed. And it may not be who’s appeared, but who we’ve summoned.

So, this should serve us well, until we find what we already have.

“Blessings on your journey”

Be willing

The other day at a staff meeting, I told my staff that the reason I get up everyday to do the work I do is to help people navigate a world turned upside down from grief, loss and change. I love the arena and the opportunity to assist other human beings that are challenged by transformational change. I love the idea and I know It’s possible to find our way through any adversity and find peace and joy. While I can point out the optional routes, point out the obstacles and detours, we all get to pick our way.

This past weekend I spent time with our dear friend Colleen O’Briens family and we had many a discussion about the challenges our world presents us. The Weatherman who recently lost his job with a racial slur, the cheerleaders who were suspended for placing a video singing a popular rap song on social media, artificial intelligence, public schools and college education, and politics, among many other topics.

Our discussion was lively, interesting, thought provoking, and satisfying except for one moment, a moment of disbelief and resistance. A moment that as an objective observer, created a complete communication shut down, a moment where conversation ceased and could no longer exist (at least on that topic). When we as a people reach a point of disbelief and resistance all conversation, understanding, and communication stops. I watched it happen, I see it happen everyday.

In my job, if families are not willing to navigate the journey of loss and grief that is associated with life and death and resist moving through it, all healing is stalled. If we want to live in a world of disbelief and resistance where there is no movement, all healing is stalled.

When we left our dear friends this weekend I commented that we hadn’t come up with a solution for our worlds problems. And, while I still struggle with this idea constantly there is only one solution I always come to. Be willing!

“Blessings on your journey”

The Campaigner

Having just taken this test, I am a campaigner!

It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for – and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing.

It doesn’t interest me how old you are. I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool – for love – for your dreams – for the adventure of being alive.

“Blessings on your journey”


Neutrality  –  the state of not supporting or helping either side in a conflict, disagreement, etc.; impartiality.

Often when I wake up I’ll have certain thoughts, ideas or feelings (doesn’t everybody?). This morning I woke up with the term neutrality front of mind.  I thought it odd to have this word being expressed to me but, I sense it has something to do with my being an observer.  When I’m actively being an observer I am not supporting any side in conflict.  I do not have a dog in the fight or an opinion of right or wrong.  In that place of impartiality I have no feelings or discomfort and I can see the conflict clearly.  Ultimately the distress or conflict is about being right or having people agree or do what we want them to do.  You find it everywhere and it’s somewhat out of control.

If we don’t support “the conflict” we don’t feed the beast (the ego) allowing the conflict to settle or dissipate, potentially ending the struggle.

Neutrality – the state of not supporting or helping either side in a conflict.  Isn’t that love?

“Blessings on your journey”

Keep moving

Some days are easy and others not!

While I enjoy the exercise of being authentic and writing what is on my mind every day, it’s not always easy.   You could say its like life itself.  Some days I feel like life’s easy and on automatic pilot with success and accomplishment all around me. Some days I can’t get out go my own way and feeling like I’m falling into a black hole.  Today is one of those in between days.  I am feeling good but tired, bored but hopeful and calm but angry.

So for now I will just keep moving.  Moving along the path my life is taking today.  Hope you do too.

As Albert Einstein once said, “Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance you must keep moving”

“Blessings on your journey”