We all have a story to tell, but sometimes we get stuck in that story and become our story.

Our own lives stories are filled and textured with our loved ones, friends and experiences that help shape how we see our world.  In that experience we can enter old patterns of life playing victim or it can be the open door to a new expression of self.  Either way, it is the story we accept that happens.

What story have you created for yourself?  Take a moment to examine and adjust as needed.  Choose support, love and forgiveness, and be kind to yourself.  After all it’s just a story of which you are the author.

“Blessings on your journey”



Changing Roles

Day 48

With all I’ve been through this past weekend, I thought this post in the Daily OM was most appropriate to offer today.

We all change throughout life trying new and different things, but the core of who we really are remains the same.
As we bob and weave with the ebb and flow of life our roles change, but our true self remains constant. As spiritual beings having a human experience, we go through many aspects of humanity in one lifetime. Living in the material world of opposites, labels, and classifications, we often identify ourselves by the roles we play, forgetting that these aspects shift and change throughout our lives. But when we anchor ourselves in the truth of our being, that core of spirit within us, we can choose to embrace the new roles as they come, knowing that they give us fresh perspective on life and a greater understanding of the lives of others.

Like actors on the stage of the world, our different roles are just costumes that we inhabit and then shed. Each role we play gives us another perspective through which to understand ourselves and the nature of the universe. When we take a moment to see that each change can be an adventure, a celebration, and a chance to play a new part, we may even be able to recapture the joyful anticipation of our youth as we transition from one role to the next.

“Blessing on your Journey”

In transition

Day 47

Today the world is spinning much slower for us.  My mother in law is safely back in the nursing home for physical therapy after the weekend stay in the hospital.  We’re still waiting to hear about my brother in laws condition.  The process towards healing is beginning for Uncle Frank and Doug and my staff members family.  My cold is still about the same, but it’s a little warmer outside!

We just returned from an overnight trip to Albany to see my mother in law transition from the hospital to the nursing home for PT.  My wife was able to see her mom and spend time with her brother and our sister in law.  It was a good trip, I was the designated driver.  It is always good to see the reality of lifes condition, good or bad, as we were able to see her decline both physically and mentally.  We were able to see her adapt to the new nursing home environment and enter right in to the current of events and activities.  Her transition remarkable considering the trauma of the weekend after the fall.

As an observer, I believe the dementia is a blessing of sorts.  Every moment is a new moment.  Every thought is a new thought. Every experience is a new experience.  She is blessed with a great disposition and loves the attention of the nursing home staff and aides.  She cannot remember how she got to this point, but she can still remember her son and daughter and I’m sure she remembers me (who could forget, lol).  She sees each new moment as an adventure and although she cannot put a full sentence together it seems ok.

As an observer I can see the brighter side of dementia and the blessing it appears to be.  I can also see the struggle for her children and see how it helps prepare them for the next step in their lifes experience.  There will come the time when she moves out of this realm of consciousness into the next.  Perhaps behind the vail of dementia this is already happening. Who can tell?

For now it seems a happy place for her.

“Blessings on your journey”

Stop the world, I want to get off!

Day 46

Today I’m in the car driving to Albany New York, where my mother in law is a recovering from a fall in her nursing home.  Last weekend, we changed our plans and drove to Baltimore because my brother in law hurt himself and couldn’t make the drive to us.  Yesterday my administrative employees father in law died, and uncle Franks 16 year old dog Higgins died.  All while I’m batteling a head cold that just won’t go away.  Plus, it’s really cold outside!!!

I’m not complaining, but it’s been quite the adventure.  With regular calls over the weekend to my brother in law to keep abreast of my mother in laws hospital stay and condition.  Gathering all the weekend food and libations for the six hour trip to Baltimore to support and share time with my sister.  Supporting and helping plan the funeral arrangements for my employees family and offering support for uncle Frank and Doug.  And now on a three hour trip to Albany to support and see my mother in law and family.

Sometimes the world gets spinning and all you can do is hang on and go for the ride.   If you were to fight or battle it (why me? poor me!) it would most likely create conflict, wade you down or beat you up.  As an observer in life, we can just adapt to each event and move forward with the necessary energy needed of us.  We cannot change the circumstances, conditions, pace or timing of life.  We were born into a human existence for a reason and it is possible we might even be good at it!

”Blessings on your journey”

If I only knew

From my book “Living and Dying”


“The earth has music for those who listen.”
― George Santayana

Where do we go from here?
What can we do now?
If we see love in our everyday life, the world becomes a loving world. If we see hatred and suffering in our life, the world becomes one filled with suffering and hatred.
Reflect on our connection with how we get where we are, and where we are going and go there.
Reflect on our connection with emotions and how we feel and live a life of feeling
Reflect on the effect of our thoughts and how they affect the energy and connection in our world and become a participant
Reflect on how our connection in our world is created by our experience in our world.
Reflect on the connection of thought and emotion.
Reflect on your connection to all things and places.
Reflect on your connection to memories and the affect they have on you, in your world
Consider that we may need to create a new version of ourselves. At any time, we can redefine ourselves. We get to pick.


If I knew it would be the last time that I’d see you fall asleep, I would tuck you in more tightly and pray the Lord, your soul to keep.
If I knew it would be the last time that I see you walk out the door, I would give you a hug and kiss and call you back for one more.
If I knew it would be the last time I’d hear your voice lifted up in praise, I would video tape each action and word, so I could play them back day after day.
If I knew it would be the last time I could spare an extra minute to stop and say “I love you,” instead of assuming you would KNOW I do.
If I knew it would be the last time I would be there to share your day, well I’m sure you’ll have so many more, so I can let just this one slip away.
For surely there’s always tomorrow to make up for an oversight, and we always get a second chance to make everything just right.
There will always be another day to say “I love you,” and certainly there’s another chance to say our “Anything I can do?”
But just in case I might be wrong, and today is all I get, I’d like to say how much I love you and I hope we never forget.
Tomorrow is not promised to anyone, young or old alike, and today may be the last chance you get to hold your loved one tight.
So if you’re waiting for tomorrow, why not do it today? For if tomorrow never comes, you’ll surely regret the day that you didn’t take that extra time for a smile, or a kiss and you were too busy to grant someone, what turned out to be their one last wish.
So hold your loved ones close today, and whisper in their ear, tell them how much you love them and that you’ll always hold them dear.
Take time to say “I’m sorry,” “Please forgive me,” “Thank you,” or “It’s okay.”
And if tomorrow never comes, you’ll have no regrets about today.—Books.htm

There is a time for everything and a season for everything under heaven. I believe it is our time.
Life is precious, embrace the love present in it, and share the joy it brings to shine your light in the world.
It is a journey filled with challengers and opportunity. Take its reigns and shine your light bright. For it is in the effort that all life is powered.

“Blessings on your journey”


From my book “Living and Dying”


“Go out, go out I beg you and taste the beauty of the wild. Behold the miracle of the earth with all the wonder of a child.” Edna Jaques

A good friend offered me a thought she had after reading this book, and it goes like this: “There are times when we want to shield the ones we love from pain. But the only true way to healing is through our pain. It is through our connection to those we have lost that we are able to find a peace in our hearts. It is through our connection that we ultimately find our peace”.
She also went on to say, “Connection exists in life, in death, and all places in between.”
I am personally very grateful for her input and openness because it reflects her willingness to embrace her connection and transition through life. It shows her willingness to live a life of emotion, experience, living in the moment, with an openness to change and growth in the midst of personal pain. A close and personal love was taken from her just a short time ago as it will and has happened to all of us. It is apparent that it is a challenge and a difficult transition as we work to understand the perplexity of life and death as we navigate our time, moment to moment, day to day. It is apparent that it is hard to embrace a new normal in forging new relationships while maintaining ones of old. Yet, I am confident that we can and will find a way. I am confident for her because she has acknowledged that the only true way to healing is through her pain. It is this simple truth, as difficult as it may seem at times, that will set all of us free.

“Set yourself free from anything that might hinder you in becoming the person you want to be. Free yourself from the uncertainties about your abilities or the worth of your dreams, from the fears that you may not be able to achieve them or that they won’t be what you wanted.
Set yourself free from the past. The good things from yesterday are still yours in memory; the things you want to forget you will, for tomorrow is only a sunrise away. Free yourself from regret or guilt, and promise to live this day as fully as you can.
Set yourself free from the expectations of others, and never feel guilty or embarrassed if you do not live up to their standards. You are most important to yourself; live by what you feel is best and right for you. Others will come to respect your integrity and honesty.
Set yourself free to simply be yourself, and you will soar higher than you’ve ever dreamed.”
– Edmund O’Neil

“Blessings on your journey”

The dungeon of my mind


FYI, It took me a little over an hour yesterday to go from feeling poorly to feeling amazing.  It happened while writing yesterdays post, when I realized what was dragging me down.  The thought being, I’m never quite good enough.  If I really dig deep, I often find that thought at the foundation of my thinking, fostered by feelings of abandonment, disappointment, and guilt amongst others.  It felt good to unearth that thought, as I didn’t realize it still lingered in the dungeon of my mind.  In fact, moments after realizing that thought, I found myself feeling better, even bordering amazing.  Although over an hour seems like a long time to write two paragraphs, it was worth it.  During that experience of observing, I became aware of what I needed to write and it changed how I am in the world.

We are constantly working on the balancing act of life, the battle (as the pictures suggests) between what we know and what we feel.  The cool thing is, it’s only a battle when we are in conflict.  Yesterday, I sat down and began to observe what I was feeling.  I observed that I was wearing my old moniker of not being good enough.  As an observer, having no conflict, I was willing to change my feeling poorly to feeling amazing, even happy.   Thanks for joining me.

“Blessings on your journey”