Moving day

Day 53, more than half way through my commitment of blogging for 100 continuous days.

Some days are difficult and others not!  While I enjoy the exercise of being authentic and writing what is on my mind it’s not always easy.   You could say its like life itself.  Somedays I feel like life’s on automatic pilot with success and accomplishment all around me, and others where I can’t get out go my own way or feeling like I’m falling into a black hole.  Today is one of those in between days.  I am feeling good but tired, bored but hopeful and calm but angry.

So for now I will just keep moving.  Moving along the path my life is taking today.  Hope you do too.

As Albert Einstein once said, “Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance you must keep moving”

“Blessings on your journey”

http://www.mkanthony.com

The songs we sing

Last night we had the privilege and pleasure of experiencing a local singer-songwriter perform in our home for a small group of family and friends.  Music has a way of filling up our senses, taking us to pleasurable places and leaving us wanting more, like John Denvers, Annies Song.

You fill up my senses
Like a night in a forest
Like the mountains in springtime
Like a walk in the rain
Like a storm in the desert
Like a sleepy blue ocean
You fill up my senses
Come fill me again

I have for years loved to listen to the tonal and rhythmic qualities of songs.  Now as I get older I have found more of a fondness for words and stories that the songs tell.  Adding thoughts about experience and telling stories finds its way direct to my heart.

While Chris Wilson is a wonderful talent and his music and story telling are unique and authentic, he is still just a man who plays a guitar and sings.  When we experience his talent it can open and reveal a place within us, a place of connection with our own story, our sacred and loving essence.  It is what happens within us that is the gift.  It is the essence of love in a complete circle of energetic connection.  The connection with our oneness, the gift received.

We too have our own instruments and songs that we sing in our work and play.  While it may not always be as obvious, that same connection exists in all places, space and time.   I can think of lots of friends (including you reading this) who are just as amazing.  People whose presence alone affect our world in magical ways.  People who create and bring new ideas and technology to our communities and our world.  People who provide loving care and comfort to many and people who are just damn good people (the list goes on).   As we go about our everyday tasks, take a moment to look around.  There is quite a story being told, quite a song being sung and quite a gift being received.

 

Here is a short video of Chris (ww.chriswilson.us) from last night.

“Blessings on your journey”

www/mkanthony.com

 

Death is not convenient!

Day 51 from my book “Living and Dying”

I have so many stories to share regarding living a healthy life because of my experience in the funeral business. Having to wake up every day and enter a world of loss has been a great gift to me. No day is the same and all I have to do is care about people. We should all have such a job!

People often joke how my job is recession proof or not affected by the economy. The saying “the only thing certain is death and taxes” comes to mind. You might be surprised that in the last forty years there have been significant and consistent changes. Probably one of the biggest differences or changes in the past few years is how important logistics has become. Years ago we did not have such a mobile society. People were born, raised and died in the same communities. Our children today are living, visiting and studying in other countries. We have families living apart while spouses travel to distant cities for work and then return on weekends for family time. Commerce is conducted on the internet—Skype and web casting are the new norms, to name just a few.

One interesting story where scheduling and logistics comes to mind is the death of one woman’s husband. In the arrangement process when it came time to schedule the funeral, I was told we needed to wait five weeks for the service as she was scheduled to leave for a cruise. Although this story is a rare occurrence, there are more and more families trying to work around scheduled plans and events. Most important to remember is “death is not convenient” and we need to accept the fact that sometimes we must be willing to change our plans to accommodate it. Being one of life’s most significant events you might think we would take notice and stop the world for a few days or weeks.

“Blessings on your journey”

www/mkanthony.com

Connection

Day 50 from my book “Living and Dying”

Connection
“For the 99 percent of the time we’ve been on Earth, we were hunter and gatherers, our lives dependent on knowing the fine, small details of our world. Deep inside, we still have a longing to be reconnected with the nature that shaped our imagination, our language, our song and dance, our sense of the divine.”
Janine M. Benyus

Connection – when we are able to be most vulnerable and transparent.

The experience of the death of a family member is one of the few guarantees we will have in life. It will happen, I guarantee it, yet it remains an event we continue to struggle with.  Let’s take a quick look at the average life experience. With the United State’s average life expectancy currently hovering at around 78.88 years, the age to which most Americans can expect to live is still forty-four years younger than the human life span. So how do we close that gap and elongate our lives? There will always be factors that are out of our individual control like our inherited genes, but we shouldn’t discount the impact of those that we can control. It is generally understood that closing the gap between life expectancy and life span can be done through healthier living, less exposure to toxins, the prevention of chronic illnesses, and a little bit of luck. The most common cause of death is heart disease.

We all know the common physical symptoms and issues of heart disease, but what is it that causes these physical changes? Science is finally looking at the cause of this breakdown. What is being discovered is that long term fear, frustration, anxiety, and disappointment are significant contributing factors in heart disease. These functions relate to our emotional experience (called hurt), which when activated is asking for the body and mind connection to be healed. If we don’t attend to these messages, or if we shut them down so as not to be recognized, our engines (our heart) will break down. In our current state of development, medicine is showing us that the human heart can last about seventy to one hundred years under these conditions.

I believe that Jesus, and others, said thousands of years ago that we all have the ability to live multi-centuries and that our bodies are designed to live this long. It is easy for me to understand the average death rates in the US because the first hundred years are the toughest. In our lifetimes we will lose everyone we have grown to love or care for. We will lose everything; people, pets, animals, jobs, relationships, homes, etc. With the level of technology so advanced, we will lose the world we have grown accustomed to and even mastered, many times.

Our struggle is with our inability to reconcile ourselves with the hurt associated with the loss of our world, and we don’t even know it. We are in a constant state of “re-construction” constantly recreating our place in the world of change and loss. When it comes to the loss of a loved one, the funeral has been, and continues to be one of the only effective experiences in our journey towards health and wellbeing since the beginning of time.

“Blessings on your journey”

http://www.mkanthony.com

Storytime

We all have a story to tell, but sometimes we get stuck in that story and become our story.

Our own lives stories are filled and textured with our loved ones, friends and experiences that help shape how we see our world.  In that experience we can enter old patterns of life playing victim or it can be the open door to a new expression of self.  Either way, it is the story we accept that happens.

What story have you created for yourself?  Take a moment to examine and adjust as needed.  Choose support, love and forgiveness, and be kind to yourself.  After all it’s just a story of which you are the author.

“Blessings on your journey”

http://www.mkanthony.com

 

 

Changing Roles

Day 48

With all I’ve been through this past weekend, I thought this post in the Daily OM was most appropriate to offer today.

BY MADISYN TAYLOR
We all change throughout life trying new and different things, but the core of who we really are remains the same.
As we bob and weave with the ebb and flow of life our roles change, but our true self remains constant. As spiritual beings having a human experience, we go through many aspects of humanity in one lifetime. Living in the material world of opposites, labels, and classifications, we often identify ourselves by the roles we play, forgetting that these aspects shift and change throughout our lives. But when we anchor ourselves in the truth of our being, that core of spirit within us, we can choose to embrace the new roles as they come, knowing that they give us fresh perspective on life and a greater understanding of the lives of others.

Like actors on the stage of the world, our different roles are just costumes that we inhabit and then shed. Each role we play gives us another perspective through which to understand ourselves and the nature of the universe. When we take a moment to see that each change can be an adventure, a celebration, and a chance to play a new part, we may even be able to recapture the joyful anticipation of our youth as we transition from one role to the next.

“Blessing on your Journey”

http://www.mkanthony.com

In transition

Day 47

Today the world is spinning much slower for us.  My mother in law is safely back in the nursing home for physical therapy after the weekend stay in the hospital.  We’re still waiting to hear about my brother in laws condition.  The process towards healing is beginning for Uncle Frank and Doug and my staff members family.  My cold is still about the same, but it’s a little warmer outside!

We just returned from an overnight trip to Albany to see my mother in law transition from the hospital to the nursing home for PT.  My wife was able to see her mom and spend time with her brother and our sister in law.  It was a good trip, I was the designated driver.  It is always good to see the reality of lifes condition, good or bad, as we were able to see her decline both physically and mentally.  We were able to see her adapt to the new nursing home environment and enter right in to the current of events and activities.  Her transition remarkable considering the trauma of the weekend after the fall.

As an observer, I believe the dementia is a blessing of sorts.  Every moment is a new moment.  Every thought is a new thought. Every experience is a new experience.  She is blessed with a great disposition and loves the attention of the nursing home staff and aides.  She cannot remember how she got to this point, but she can still remember her son and daughter and I’m sure she remembers me (who could forget, lol).  She sees each new moment as an adventure and although she cannot put a full sentence together it seems ok.

As an observer I can see the brighter side of dementia and the blessing it appears to be.  I can also see the struggle for her children and see how it helps prepare them for the next step in their lifes experience.  There will come the time when she moves out of this realm of consciousness into the next.  Perhaps behind the vail of dementia this is already happening. Who can tell?

For now it seems a happy place for her.

“Blessings on your journey”

http://www.mkanthony.com