Co-creating day three.  Co-creating is like listening to the radio, you realize that you are listening to a channel, your channel, yet continue to recognize that there are many other channels playing out there.  While you do not have to tune in to the other channels you have the option to play with them whenever you’re moved to.

The key to co-creating is recognizing and being “willing” to hear these other channels.  They are always playing (like your channel), and they offer different energy pathways that move and grove to different beats that may challenge you.  While it seems easier to keep it on your one channel, the universe is challenging you, reaching out and calling you to hear what is being played.  No intention (no pressure) to make anything happen or expect anything, just play!!!

”Blessings on your journey”



Creating vs wondering and waiting! As I sit here writing I am creating, and as you sit there reading, we are co-creating.  Co-creating is my new reality, an interaction and moving energetic taking us on an adventure from place to place.  Yesterday as I drove around and did what I do, I realized that while my creating might be the center of my universe, it is not a much needed higher reality.  This higher reality is my creative universe connecting and co-creating with yours!!  We do it every minute of every day but often we only see our part in it, we stop and wait for those we connect with to agree or fall in line with our thinking (wondering and waiting).

As I navigated the day yesterday, I noticed many things. The greatest of them; realizing my creating is for “our” universe, “our” world, not for me.

“Blessings on your journey”

Wondering and waiting

Wondering and waiting.

Sometimes I find myself wondering and waiting. Wondering and waiting seems easy and safe because it doesn’t require I do anything. Wondering and waiting feels like being stuck in the mud, immobile.  You can still see the sun come up and hear the birds singing and the children playing, but stuck, all while the world spins around me. Wondering and waiting is not creating!!

Creating, is jumping into the stream, feeling the pull of the waters and energy that moves all around me.  Like wondering and waiting, I’m still witnessing all of those things spinning around me.  The difference with creating is recognizing and feeling that my place in it has meaning, has purpose, has an impact!!  In fact when I’m creating, I may even be at the center of it!!  We were meant to create, rock on!!

”Blessings on your journey”

What if?

What if there was a place where no one would judge us, or think less of us. A place where no topic was off limits, a safe place, where one would be listened to.  A place where you could find your authentic self, your authentic voice and be supported and encouraged to be all you can be.  A place where you were important.  A place where you didn’t feel alone anymore and a place you could go anytime.

What if there was such a place?

“Blessings on your journey”

Death is not convenient!

From my book “Living and Dying”

I have so many stories to share regarding living a healthy life because of my experience in the funeral profession. Having to wake up every day and enter a world of loss has been a great gift to me. No day is the same and all I have to do is care about people. We should all have such a job!

People often joke how my job is recession proof or not affected by the economy. The saying “the only thing certain is death and taxes” comes to mind. You might be surprised that in the last forty years there have been significant and consistent changes. Probably one of the biggest differences or changes in the past few years is how important logistics has become. Years ago we did not have such a mobile society. People were born, raised and died in the same communities. Our children today are living, visiting and studying in other countries. We have families living apart while spouses travel to distant cities for work and then return on weekends for family time. Commerce is conducted on the internet—Skype and web casting are the new norms, to name just a few.

One interesting story where scheduling and logistics comes to mind is the death of one woman’s husband. In the arrangement process when it came time to schedule the funeral, I was told we needed to wait five weeks for the service as she was scheduled to leave for a cruise. Although this story is a rare occurrence, there are more and more families trying to work around scheduled plans and events. While I am not here to judge, one of the most important things to remember is “death is not convenient” and here are times in life where we must be willing to change our plans to accommodate it. Being one of life’s most significant events, take notice and stop the world for a few days or weeks.

“Blessings on your journey”


Our biggest fear

Don Miguel Ruiz wrote, “Death is not the biggest fear we have; our biggest fear is taking the risk to be alive — the risk to be alive and express what we really are.”

Being fearful of the future takes an enormous amount of energy and drains the creativity and motivation from life. So, just for today, do your best to be less fearful. And, as you set your sights on the coming days, plan to do one small thing every day to express your own uniqueness.

“Blessings on your journey”

Energy = motion

From my book “Living and Dying”

The energy associated with emotion is very strong and one that can be very difficult to embrace. It will cause us to move out of our comfort zone, and it will challenge us to what feels like a breaking point. It will feel large, in charge, and scary at times, but it has its purpose. It is there to move us toward something new. It is there to make us choose. It is there for our own good, to shock us out of our old patterns. It is there to be embraced and it will move us towards love. The dilemma in all of this is that we have a choice.

In the many years I devoted to limiting emotion in my life, I was in a constant war with myself. In my new experience of embracing and choosing emotion (e=motion) I have blossomed to do many new things and have grown in many ways. It has been challenging, and I do fall off course. But if I were to have to do it over again, I would choose the course of energy and motion.

I have always loved the quote “When in life have you learned the most, when everything was easy or when you were most challenged?” In my experience, all of my major growth has taken place in change and movement from one place to another. Perhaps that is why I chose funeral service. Is there any other experience that challenges us to move from one place to another that is more profound? I think not.

”Blessings on your journey”

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