Good thing you rock

If you change the way you look at the world, the world you look at changes.

Change your thinking to knowing that your life matters, and that you are important. It can be easy sometimes to buy into the illusion of our own insignificance. But nothing could be further from the truth. Every single one of us matters tremendously. Our very existence affects countless people in countless ways. And because we are each essentially a microcosm of the larger universe, our internal experiences affect the whole of life more than we could ever imagine. The world simply could not exist as it does now if you, or any one of us, were not in it.

Perhaps on some level you believe your life does not matter. If this thought resonates with you, join the club and the journey, it happens to the best of us. This one belief in your own unimportance could be limiting you and impacting your life in enormous ways. When you shift your perceptions around your own ability to affect your life and impact the world, you may discover wonderful parts of yourself that you had long ago forgotten. There may even be exciting new parts that you never even knew existed.

I know what it’s like. I’ve seen it played out a few zillion times: You’re waiting for that magical day when someone makes the connection and recognizes who you really are. Maybe they’ll first catch the sparkle in your eye. Or perhaps they’ll marvel at your insights and the depth of your spirit. Someone who will help you connect the dots, believe in yourself, and make sense of it all. Someone who will understand you, approve of you, and unhesitatingly give you a leg up so that life can pluck your ready, ripened self from the branch of magnificence.


Well, I’m here to tell you, your wait is over. That someone is you.

Good thing you rock.

”Blessings on your journey”

Beguiling romance

The main thing those who’ve “passed” would like to tell those who’ve not “passed,” is that once you get over the shock of having safely arrived—completely intact, cool as ever, and bathed in love—what you’ll miss most about Earth, after ice cream, is the beguiling romance of uncertainty.
Oh yes you will.  You really do have it made.  Giddy-up
From my friends at TUT
”Blessings on your journey”

Snow day!!

For those of you struggling with weather today, here is a blast from last years storm.

Today we wake up to a new blast of winter weather and lots of snow.  It’s a Friday and a good day to stay inside if you can, and reflect on the opportunity to slow down and appreciate the simple needs we have.  The schools are closed, the roads still difficult to manage and everybody is moving at a slow and cautious pace.

For me and many of us it minimizes the need to get things done and rush out into the world to meet goals and expectations.  For others, it creates havoc, struggle and presents obstacles and danger.  In any case it is a gift and opportunity to experience. In my work, there are no pressing services to manage today and those who need our help are naturally slowed down by the weather too. This morning as I write this, I have no pressure to get it done fast or any need to rush, just enjoy the beauty outside my window and enjoy the warm and comfortable space of my home.  For moms who’s daily scheduled plans are crushed by another snow day, they get to receive the gift of their children, the little ones they called to life. Take and savor this gift, there will come a time when you will miss it. For those who need to rush out into the storm as we all have had to do sometimes, it provides other opportunities.  The opportunity of being out in the midst of a storm witnessing the beauty and natural energy of nature can be a gift.  Every where you look there is a fresh and invigorating natural beauty, compelling us to take a moment to pause and notice.  In the work place there is a natural understanding for the navigational concerns and issues brought on by the weather.  Schedules are naturally affected and understood (or should be) and the pace is naturally slowed with absences and tardiness.  The world is slowed down, take a breath in this space.  There is comfort, joy and peace here. It is in our breath and comes from deep within our soul.  It is a moment to be noticed and celebrated.  We are here and life is good.

“Blessings on your journey”


From my book “Living and Dying”

The energy associated with emotion is very strong and one that can be very difficult to embrace. It will cause us to move out of our comfort zone, and it will challenge us to what feels like a breaking point. It will feel large, in charge, and scary at times, but it has its purpose. It is there to move us toward something new. It is there to make us choose. It is there for our own good, to shock us out of our old patterns. It is there to be embraced and it will move us towards love. The dilemma in all of this is that we have a choice.

In the many years I devoted to limiting emotion in my life, I was in a constant war with myself. In my new experience of embracing and choosing emotion (e=motion) I have blossomed to do many new things and have grown in many ways. It has been challenging, and I do fall off course. But if I were to have to do it over again, I would choose the course of energy and motion.

I have always loved the quote “When in life have you learned the most, when everything was easy or when you were most challenged?” In my experience, all of my major growth has taken place in change and movement from one place to another. Perhaps that is why I chose funeral service. Is there any other experience that challenges us to move from one place to another that is more profound? I think not.

”Blessings on your journey”

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Memory of the past

From my book “Living and Dying”

As I look around the field of experience and energy in the world, I see movement towards a new and exciting place. It brings with it feelings of trepidation but underlying our fear, I sense a feeling of hope. It is as if our place in the world has moved a little because it may feel a little odd and strange.

It is a gray and rainy day where I sit today. The trees are just beginning to bud, and you can feel and smell that Spring is here. The birds wake me up each morning, and I watch their excitement and exuberance at the feeder. Any day now, life will burst through the binding that holds it and bring with it a new expression of the same life that has always been there, always connected but hidden from our view through the winter months. I remember last year, and the years before, where I had the same feelings and thoughts, yet I hope that somehow today I will grow and blossom into a better place.

While my view of the world outside reflects the darkness in my mind and darkness in the world around me, I know that if I can find a new thought to hang on to, a new place of hope, a hopeful connection, perhaps I can escape from the damp and dreary hole of self despair. You see, it is the memory of new life that highlights my connection with despair, and I need to remind myself that it is only a thought, a memory of the past. If I can change my thought, I can change my world. When I look out into the world today I can choose to see only new life. I will choose not kto accept the memory of despair, because that is not what is real for me today. It is only a trap of my mind, a memory of the past.

”Blessings on your journey”

Keeping safe

From a post of over a year ago, yet, it still is very relevant today.

I Just listened to Wayne LaPierre the head of the NRA speak on the news.  It is hard these days to not question everything one person says and today is no different.  The past few days guns and their laws have been a hot topic in the press.  Hearing from family’s in pain, school representatives, students, politicians, clergy, law enforcement, the list goes on, and its the same list every time there’s a crisis. I believe this debate will continue and there probably will be a few changes that should or could be added to the current laws.

Wayne LaPierre said many interesting things today that resonated with me.  He commented as he always does on the 2nd amendment, the right to bear arms.  As a conservative American and one who would do anything to protect my family from any evil, it caused a physical and emotional reaction within me.  While I am not currently a gun owner, I could sense a strong and real connection with my forefathers, the ones who created this protection in the amendment to our Constitution . It also made me realize that while I have this connection with my forefathers through our family heritage of hundreds of years, there are many living here that do not feel or have that (perhaps that is what fueled Trumps win last year).  While I would love to live in a world that does not require or need protection, I don’t feel I’m going to experience that in my lifetime.

He advocated for better enforcement of the current gun laws, which he feels is not being done to the extent of the law. He also advocated for having guns present in the hands of well trained individuals in currently banned school zones. His argument was the only thing to stop a gun in the hands of a bad guy was a gun in the hands of a good guy.  Now, while that idea makes me shutter just a little bit, he said if not, take the guns out of the White House, the Capital, the stadiums and public areas and from the entertainers and those who pay for that protection.  Interesting thoughts.

The conversation will continue with the intent of keeping our loved ones safe. But, maybe the conversation isn’t about guns at all, but more importantly about changing what our country wants to be and believe in. I send all my love to those affected by the series of events that have rocked our world this week and in the pastweeks and months.

“Blessings on your journey”


1. There will always be factors and people that we cannot control; how we respond can determine the quality of our lives.

2.  There’s always more than one right answer, path, possibility, nuance, or flavor – so insist upon none.  Insisting on details, always limits you.

No matter how good we are at controlling our circumstances, there will always be factors and people that we cannot control. How we respond to these experiences to a great degree determines the quality of our lives.  Life can be and is designed to be meaningful, fullfilling, joyous, purposeful, peaceful, loving, etc. (add your adjectives here).  While at times we are challenged and feel broken do not be dismayed.

3. Do not be dismayed by the brokenness of the world. All things break. And all things can be mended. Not with time, as they say, but with intention. So go. Love intentionally, extravagantly, unconditionally. The broken world waits in darkness for the light that is you.   L.R. KNOST

”Blessings on your journey”

Your Holiness

You can never be deprived of your perfection and holiness, because its goes with you wherever you go. You can never suffer, you can never be alone and nothing can destroy your peace of mind. How bout that!  This idea of a new reality could eventually overcome completely the sense of loneliness and depression.

Depression is an inevitable consequence of our error in thinking. So is anxiety, worry, helplessness, misery, suffering, and intense fear of loss. The scary thing to me is we have invented many “cures” for what we believe to be the “ills of the world.” But the one thing they do not do is to question the reality of the problem.

For years (a lifetime so far) I have been working on questioning the reality of my problems with some success. I have written about it, prayed about it, meditated about it, and counseled about it only to learn its effects cannot be cured.  It cannot be cured because the problem is not real. How bout that!  It is not real because deep within us everything is perfect, ready to radiate through us and out into the world. This idea, this new thinking can cure all sorrow, pain, fear and loss because it will heal the mind that thought these things, the mind that thought these things were real and suffered out of its allegiance to them. Although some days are easier than others, we cannot give up because Living and Dying is a challenge. A challenge we have asked for, and one that opens the door to living a spiritual life in a human experience.  Take a few deep breaths and feel that connection with our perfection and holiness.  Make it a big part of your day.

“Blessings on your journey”


From my book “Living and Dying”

“The earth is rude, silent, incomprehensible at first; be not discouraged – keep on – there are divine things, well enveloped; I swear to you there are divine things more beautiful than words can tell.” Walt Whitman

I have recently surrendered and embraced the thought or concept of communication as an emotional experience. For years I had tried to keep emotion out by trying to operate exclusively from my mind and not allowing my heart to participate. My mind was strong and I had developed it to work rather well. What I have re-learned is that when we live from a place of intellect, we become disconnected from our heart and with how it feels. If we disconnect with how it feels, we miss the opportunity to heal. And, if we don’t heal we stay wounded, or less than whole.
Feeling is a key to our life and the barometer of our connection between head and heart. When someone we care about has died, we are going to experience a thought and an associated feeling about it. If we do not, we need to take a close look at that because we cannot run or hide from it, it is a part of our nature. For some of us, we would rather find a way to escape this nightmare.

In my relationship with my business partner (cousin), I had to lead from my heart and reconnect with how it felt to be a member of his family as opposed to his business partner in order to experience healing. The journey toward healing involved choosing a path based on feeling but started with a conscious thought to change and journey from the heart. We get to make the choice, to choose. We all have the choice, and truthfully all we need is to be “willing.” If we’re willing to make the effort, there will be growth and there will be healing. Make the choice of living and loving through all of life’s ups and downs, there is no better ride.

“Blessings on your journey”