The Rock

Some years ago, a good friend shared with me a concept that had helped him in his life.  It was a spiritual discussion which revolved around our commitments and values.  He used the term the “Rock we stand on”   For some time now I have used this term in my thinking and practicing and found it to be a life changing and significant thought.

It reminds me of when as children, we used to play king of the hill where one would stand atop the snow piles (in those days), and others would try to knock him off.  

The “Rock we stand on” is very much the same.  It’s a place we put our life’s impression on, a place where we hold our beliefs solidly, and no one can knock us off. What rock do you stand on that no one can knock you off? where do you stand on issues, beliefs, values? etc..  It seems to me that without a position and our rock we leave very little of ourselves in the world.

Rock on!!

”Blessings on your journey”

Celebrating rituals

Today I began with my daily ritual of meditation.  Thirty minutes this morning and as long as one hour on other days.  The practice (which it is) is intended to begin the day with my attention focused and balanced on my mind, body and spirit.  During this time of quiet contemplation I experience a myriad of things.  Today I received some interesting clarity on this topic of ritual.

“Ritual is a regular and necessary part of all of our lives.  It is what the human condition is all about and brings meaning and substance to everything we do”.

Currently I am ritualizing by writing this post, and after I get up from here I will go and drink eight ounces of water (another ritual) followed by another eight ounces of water on every hour.  It goes on and on.

Let’s celebrate our rituals today!!

”Blessings on your journey”

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The acorn

A follow up to yesterday’s post.

Some days it doesn’t seem worth it to even get out of bed.  Frustration, depression, boredom, (insert your adjective here) can keep us distracted, locked down, paralyzed. Then, once we get up and achieve just one thing, making your bed, write a post on your blog, connect with a friend that is struggling, it all changes.  In that moment we realize it doesn’t take much to make a difference.  Here’s a good quote to focus on today!

The creation of a thousand forests is in one acorn – Ralph Waldo Emerson

”Blessings on your journey”


Today I had the pleasure of seeing a good friend of many years. She made the effort of finding me out to ask me how I was doing. While we do not personally have the opportunity to check in on a regular basis, I was moved by her taking the effort to say hello. After moments of sharing and connecting I said goodbye as we re-entered our previous activity. It would be a lie to suggest to you that it didn’t move me, in fact it made my day. She brought love, light and joy to my day, she was a gift to me in a simple, honest and authentic way, she cared. If we could somehow bottle this moment, this effort, we could make a difference in this world. She did for me!! Giddy-up!!

“Blessings on your journey”

The cycle of life

As we walk through the world living our lives, we see babies, old men, pregnant women, and teenaged boys. We know couples on the verge of marriage and lonely widows. We interact with toddlers and the terminally ill. As different as each person seems, they are all living the human experience. They are just at different places in the cycle that begins with birth and ends with death. Every phase of the cycle of life has its gifts and its challenges. Each stage is temporary and ultimately gives way to a new phase.

Being aware of the cycle of life and our place in it makes us wiser. As we develop a true appreciation for the phase we are in, we can savor it more. Difficult and challenging periods are inevitable, but – like everything that is a part of the cycle of life – they are temporary. Fully embracing wherever you are in the cycle of life is the very essence to happiness.

”Blessings on your journey”

From the heart

Greg Braden in his new book “Resilience from the heart” suggests that a “new normal” is replacing the familiar world of our past—an uncharted territory of extremes ranging from social change and climate change to the uncertainty of jobs, finances, careers, and the stress these changes bring to our lives.  I agree with Greg that we are living in a new world of extremes and see it simply as change, change that is transformational where we are pushed from an old normal into a new normal space.

He sees people all over the world agreeing with him as he shares his theories and facts.  He also suggests that in order to adapt to change we must first acknowledge and mourn the passing of the world that’s disappearing in order to thrive in the new normal.  I love this part because it is what I do everyday as I guide those challenged by loss to a new normal space. Most people he speaks with agree with how healing it is for us to acknowledge the new normal, openly and honestly. But their body language often showed him other things as well, some that were less comfortable.  He learned quickly, for example, when the audience became stretched to connect with what he was sharing. And perhaps most important, he learned from their body language when they couldn’t connect with the information at all. From moments of dead silence, broken by sporadic throat clearing and the shifting of chairs, to people exiting for an early bathroom break, it was obvious when he had crossed beyond the comfort zone of accepted ideas.  I see this in my work and truthfully everyday in people.  Some conversations I want to have or ideas I have, cannot be heard by some.   There is a place where information challenges the very essence of our being and often we dont have the tools to go with and process.  It is a function of our resilience and to some a physical threat.

The best science of the 21st century now echoes the spirit of our most ancient and cherished spiritual traditions. Both reveal that the key to resilience begins in our heart. Whether you’re facing health issues yourself, helping loved ones through overwhelming life issues, managing impossible finances, or feeling overwhelmed by the extremes of a volatile world, his book “Resilience from the Heart” is written with you in mind. Within these pages you’ll find everything you need to embrace the biggest challenges in life and do so in a healthy way.

You can download the ebook for free at

If the link doesn’t work email me and I’ll copy you the email I received. Oh, and by the way my book “Living and Dying” speaks to these issues as well 🙂

”Blessings on your journey”


Believing you can, you can. Though you might not.

Believing you can’t, won’t change that you can. It just hides it.

Whereas simply getting started, however timid your first steps are, and consistently moving in the direction of your dreams day after day, will eventually create such unstoppable momentum, you’ll find it nearly impossible to believe that there was ever a time when you wavered.

”Blessings on your journey”