Flow group revisited!


Two years later !  Last night I had the privilege of reuniting with members of my flow group from two years ago in Los Angeles.

When I went to Los Angeles in March 2017, I was well into a transformational event journey.  I had written and published a book and was looking forward to expanding my reach personally, spiritually, emotionally and professionally.   I had always thought or more accurately hoped that my journey to enlightenment was a trip where I could go from 0 to full enlightenment overnight, I did not realize or want to understand that life did not work that way (at least for most of us). While I did not encounter full, embodied, enlightenment on this trip, it did ignite a new beginning, a new opportunity.

When I left Los Angeles, I began a daily regimen of meditation with the intention of developing a marketing strategy for my book with the possibility of speaking engagements, travel and professional acknowledgement etc.  It took me 6 – 7 months to realize that vision or dream was not working and it has morphed into a movement of one book at a time, personal gifts to families I serve and meet, and a gift to friends. So in my old thinking, once again I was not good enough, yet, it prompted me to begin a 100 day journey of blogging and sharing my thoughts with the world on a public stage (to date this is my 389th post!).  This new journey helped me establish my new publicly acknowledged mantra of living life “authentically and honestly”  this theme has breathed new life into me and has become my anchor for all that I do.  FYI, I probably run at around 70% – 80% in my effectiveness sometimes higher, sometimes lower.

Recently I attended an Esther Hicks seminar in Florida.  During that experience she used an analogy of how life’s journey is a variety of different and individual trips, spread out  throughout our days, weeks months, years lifetime etc. (not my 0 to enlightenment wish, but a life changing thought never the less).  My mind instantly imagined the Uber app with little digital cars moving around – and much like the Uber app, those moving cars can and do represent the many different and infinite possibilities moving around us all the time as we navigate our day, week, year, lifetime.  We make the choices to engage or not with the different rides and go on those adventures or journeys.

I also recently had a conversation about Joy with a friend who asked me what I did that was fun or I really liked.  I had a hard time answering that.  What I realized was that I spend most of my time and energy preparing the way for others.  Not to fix anything, but to create safe spaces and a smooth journey for those along for the ride.  While I am very good at it and it gives me great pleasure to do it, she suggested that along the way I try and take moment’s to find the good time that I can personally have. I have recently tried this and voila, it is indeed possible 😊

Today, I find myself in a professional place of transitioning out of my career identity of funeral director and owner.  I find myself re-engaging with music, both personally and with my grand kids and family, I find myself supporting friends and artists who express joy and breath love and life back into our community.  I find myself living a sober lifestyle or should I say struggling to find a balance with addictive personalities and distractions from my authentic and honest theme.

I find myself continuing to blog on a less stringent schedule, I find myself looking to find ways to bring people together in spaces that encourage listening and honoring each other’s space and ideas. I find myself on the verge of creating my next book by using over a year of my past posts from my blog.

And after being asked by my son and future daughter in law, I find myself sharing in the ceremony, by presiding over their marriage with words of connection, honor, peace and love.

All in all not a bad place to be even in the midst of the worlds disfunction, hate and discord.

I also find myself in the place of wishing to Thank you for your time and dedication for bringing us all together and honoring us in this way and in this place today.  It is a gift for me to reunite and share our story.  It is a gift to be honored by you and a gift for us to honor you.

“Blessings on your journey”


Bon voyage!

I have been moved to be a better leader, mentor, coach etc. To be more honest with myself and others (hold space and expect others to hold space for me), to practice what I preach (honest and authentic) and shake rattle and role (stretch, take risks and grow).

I also continually re-visit a need to ensure that I am surrounding myself in an environment that fosters the type of growth I seek for myself.  Surrounding myself with others who aren’t willing to stretch and take risks, be honest and authentic and hold caring, and committed space for me, is a lot of work.  There’s the old saying that when the rising tide raises the water level in the marina all the boats rise with it.  Conversely, if I’m boating with others that are draining the marina of water, I too am affected.

Today let’s set sail with a clear view and direction.  While I might encounter some bad weather and rough seas, I know my destination and am quite willing and determined to get there.  Bon Voyage!!

”Blessings on your journey”


Tragic events

Sometime ago, a good friend asked me to write about suicide.  I have had way to much experience working with families that have had to struggle with the why’s and what  if’s of loved ones taking their own lives.  All of the stories sound unique because of personalities, relationships, manner of death etc.  Yet, they are all very similar.

One story I will share is the mother who wondered “WHY” her son did this.  He left no note and there were no specific warning signs or previous efforts.  She spoke with us at a funeral directors convention many years ago.  After the presentation I spoke with her.  I asked her how long she asked the question “WHY” Her response, was so perfect.  She said, “after two and a half years of asking WHY, I decided I just couldn’t do it anymore!!”

The other story I tell is about a good friend of mine, who lost his son to suicide.  Although his son had struggled with depression and relationship issues, he had recently found new purpose and friends in volunteering.  He was beginning to put his struggles behind, or so it seemed when it happened.  As we approached the day of putting his son’s body to rest, I asked my friend how he was doing. It was evident that he was struggling and working hard to find some understanding, not just for his own benefit but to help everyone.  If there was anyone who would figure it out, I knew he would.  When I asked how he was doing, he told me he had figured it out.  We went to the study and sat down to talk.  As his expression took on a sad but compassionate and loving softness, he said to me “Mark, If my son were sitting here with me right now, he would say Dad, I’m sorry, I made a mistake, I was not in my right mind”

I will never forget it and I share the story with all the families that are confronted with this horrific event. What I’ve learned is, we’re all human and sometimes we make mistakes because we’re not in our right mind. The difference is sometimes it can take place where reason, understanding, hope and resilience does not exist.  A place where there are no more solutions or options.

In our life we will experience tragic events that happen to people we know and love.  Often we will never know the reason or have the answers to the many questions we ask.  Often it will come when we least expect it and in the blink of an eye.  Life is designed to be a mystery and I believe and have learned while it may not always be obvious, we have the ability to handle it.  Within us is a wisdom and love so profound yet often untouched, unknown about and experienced until tragedy strikes.  Let’s not wait for that!!

”Blessings on your journey”

For many more of these life changing and supportive stories order my book “Living and Dying” Finding Love and Hope in the Journey of Loss at http://www.mkanthony.com

Broken hearted

A heart that has been broken and seen pain, reveals within it, a crack that allows more light in.  MADISYN TAYLOR

There are many life altering situations flowing in and around our daily life experience. While I expect changes day to day, they still are shocking when they come to fruition.  Some changes sneak up on me very slowly and others drop in with a “Big Bang”.  The affect of these heart wounding events, trigger thoughts and emotions, and bring forth physical symptoms that can wash over me in waves.  In my lifetime I have come to believe and see these as opportunities for miracles. That crack that breaks us open allows more light in, revealing to me the miracle of love and peace the more I surrender and open to it.  But heartbreak, like all emotions, falls under the spell of our consciousness influence, not everyone can make the transition, fearing damaging ourselves further.

If you, like me are one who is experiencing heartbreak from loss, know that you are not alone, that there is hope and the possibility for miracles.  If there are clouds in the sky blocking the light from our view, know the light is still there, just hidden from our sight. Much love and peace to you.

”Blessings on your journey”

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Light walkers

There are many people in the world that hold and carry light. When they turn and shine their light towards me, I feel safe, needed and valued. When they turn to go I can never forget how I felt in their presence. And when they turn back I can feel that same familiar light as if it never left.  These people have an outward-looking perspective, they direct their gaze and light beyond themselves and into our living experiences.  Like listening and sharing, they build a framework of existence that is inter-dependent. Thank You!

“Enveloped in Your Light, may I be a beacon to those in search of Light. Sheltered in Your Peace, may I offer shelter to those in need of peace. Embraced by Your Presence, so may I be present to others”.


“Blessings on your journey”


I am fine

I wrote this a year ago. Giddy up!!

I am fine, not bad, not good, fine.  I will be OK.  Even in the midst of todays challenges, I will be OK.  If I die tomorrow, I will be OK.  If anyone else dies tomorrow, I will be Ok.  If my house burns down, I will be OK.  If one of my employees quit, if I fail to connect or satisfy a family in our business for whatever reason, If I fail as a mentor or boss, I will be OK.  If I fail as a husband, father or friend, I will be OK.  (Insert your ideas here!)

I will be OK because I don’t want or choose the other options, and I will learn.

While my thoughts are a little dark today and I don’t naturally want any of the above things to happen, they will to someone.  And while many of life’s changes are scary to me they will also challenge and be scary to others I know.  I also recognize any major changes in my life will change me in different ways.  I will be forced out, or have to step out of  my comfort zone into areas that make me stretch, take risks, and possibly even enter areas with unknown consequences and results.

First, I will practice stretching outside of my comfort zone (ex. blogging)  When I’m comfortable living in the stretch zone, I will practice in the risk zone (ex. writing a book).  When I’m comfortable living in the risk zone, I will move out into the unknown zone (TBD)  My goal is to be so comfortable at living in the unknown area (my new comfort zone) that there would be nothing that could concern, scare of worry me.  Join me!!

”Blessings on your journey”


Bring it!

Folks, in case you were wondering with all the banter and noise in our world, we’re all in this together.  So, let’s bring it!!

Our fates are tied. We have this strange notion on this planet that our fates are not tied. If it were not so we would not be here together. It’s that simple.   LUISAH TEISH

”Blessings on your journey”