Stop, touch and feel!

This weekend has been unique for me in the finger lakes region. Bright sunny and cool golf weather, turning to cold damp and dreary. Steeple Chase races and art shows. Boating, turkey dinners with the neighbors and times spent preparing for winter at the cottage. Often I take for granted all of the unique and wonderful experiences surrounding me. Much like the fall colors there are many different shades and textures in our everyday life. It’s nice to stop and see – stop, touch and feel all of it.

“Blessings on your journey”

Free yourself!

Yesterday I wrote about healing yourself and how forgiveness was used for healing within the psyche of Brandt Jean, who’s brother had been murdered. I suggested that Brandt will continue to mourn the loss of his brother and continue forgiving Guyger for the rest of his life. I also mentioned how revealing and inspirational his act of forgiveness was, allowing him to free himself from a life of condemnation and hate.

All of the work required for healing when we have been emotionally or physically scarred, can and often will require a lifetime of practice. We will notice that the level of intensity and damage inflicted, will correspond to the amount of effort and energy we will need to put into healing. Just like a physical wound, the severity and size of the wound will dictate the time needed to heal, and the size of the scar it leaves physically and emotionally.

To all of us out there carrying these wounds and scars of life, I send you love, hope and the forgiveness that sets us all free.

“Blessings on your journey”

Heal yourself!

Daily we live in a world created by our thinking, our reaction and participation in it. We have the opportunity to make it the best day we’ve ever had, sometimes just OK and sometimes just plain awful. We get to choose. We get to determine how the thoughts and actions play out in the wind of change and cause and affect. We get to decide on the direction our life takes, we get to choose. Even when the world throws us curveballs, heaving death, and the destruction of everything we believe in, we get to choose.

A couple of days ago Brandt Jean in response to a convicted murderer, hugged Amber Guyger as she was sentenced to ten years, for the killing of his brother, Botham Jean. In court, Brandt Jean, 18, used his victim impact statement to tell the court that despite what Guyger took from his family, if she is truly sorry for what she did, then he forgives her and wants the best for her. As the two shared a tight hug, the courtroom was largely quiet except for the sounds of sobbing. Footage of that moment put a dramatic human light on what had already been a widely watched case, in which an off-duty white police officer shot and killed an innocent black man.

Jean’s act of forgiveness and the ensuing reaction was immediately reminiscent of when the survivors of the Emanuel AME Church in Charleston, SC, publicly forgave Dylan Roof. While we don’t want to glorify the act of forgiveness, as it does not absolve all of the issues created by our thinking, It is clear that the embrace was what Jean needed, and in fact requested. The reasons are not ours to parse or condemn. I do know that Brandt Jean will continue to mourn the loss of his brother for the rest of his life and he will be forgiving Guyger for the rest of his life. While there were many that were confused and disheartened by it, others tried to pull something good from it. Defense attorney Toby Shook on network TV said, “he thinks he showed with his grace and forgiveness how we should heal” In Brandt’s victim impact statement he said, I love you as a person; Jean, I don’t wish anything bad on you.

What he did this day was to heal “himself”, free himself from a life of condemnation and hate. He made his choice.

“Blessings on your journey”

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How we see the world

Someone once said “We don’t see the world as it is. We see the world as we are” — thus our lenses of perception inform our experience, we bring ourselves, our biases, our expectations to the doorstep of every moment. Knowing this, we can become more conscious of how we see, steward and direct our attention in ways that serve our inner life and make us more whole.

“Blessings on your journey”

Leaning towards the truth

The last few days, I have been following the news and the discussion around impeachment. It is very apparent to me that the interpretation of right and wrong revolves around the idea of how we see the data.

Isn’t it true about everything and everyone we deal with?

How we see the world, how we process our past experiences and thoughts affect our decisions and direction. If we lean to the left, we lean that way. If we lean to the right, we lean that way. It is the lens we view our world that dictates our reality. The way we lean is “our” right way.

“Blessings on your journey”


100 Days

A while back I embarked on a journey of personal discovery. After returning from a transformational event in Los Angeles, I made the commitment to meditate for 1 hour each day and examine my life as it is, and where it could be. It had always been a belief that my thinking was a result of past events and experiences and that if I could find a way to transition past my old thinking, I could find a new place to be, a new normal, living in the moment.

Many of the people in these groups used video to post their daily revelations. I chose to do a daily report for 100 days and used writing to report my thoughts uncovered during meditation.

After over 450 daily posts I’ve decided to share these posts in a new book. I have learned that hearing the stories and reflections of others experience we can notice our own voice respond and resonate or not, bringing clarity and newness to our lives. Today I begin the process of transferring and editing and look forward to the day where I can connect with you and others willing.

“Blessings on you journey”

Moments of profundity!

With the 18 anniversary of the tragedy at the World Trade Center in NYC behind us, it causes me pause. Pause to remember the intensity of feelings and reactions surrounding this horrific act. My reaction and the reaction of all of those around me reached pinnacles of dis-belief I had never experienced before. Shock, dis-belief, anger, fear, and eventually profound sadness and empathy as we began to hear the numbers of those affected by it.

We were Ill prepared for that profound and monumental event. Our reactions lasted days, weeks, months, years and to those affected most closely, it still exists. In our lives we have moments of profundity, moments where we are tested, pushed, prodded and moved. We will continue to struggle and learn, grow and be strong, find hope and love even in its midst. We will.

“Blessings on your journey”