The coolest person

What if, the coolest person on the planet didn’t know they were the coolest person on the planet, because of a few self-doubts, a few trace fears, or the occasional twang of inadequacy. Or because they somehow thought fame, or wealth, or popularity mattered. Or because they just didn’t know the effect they had on others.

It would be a pity, huh? A real travesty. And, of course, telling them wouldn’t achieve much because they’d never believe you. Never. They’d be too modest to accept it. Too naïve to see it. And, well, too cool to think it mattered.

So… well… ah… let’s just leave it at that –

The lady in black

A few years ago I was having a reading done by a medium-psychic, and in her reading she told me I had recently saved someone.  She asked me if I remembered anything like that or knew of anyone near me that was struggling. She said it was a young women, who was considering taking her life and that I saved her.  I considered my past few days and could only recall one young woman dressed in black with a black shawl or hoodie over her head at the post office.  She had caught my attention when I entered even though we did not talk or communicate in any direct way.  I would guess she was in her twenty’s and although she seemed very mysterious, I didn’t notice or do anything specific that I thought would connect us. The psychic told me that my very presence and loving energy in that moment, space in time, provided the fuel and gave her the support and hope she needed to continue to live that day. To this day, I wonder where and how she might be, as I will never forget her.

I believe there is a connection between all things, and becoming aware of this is important in terms of the broader effect we are creating. Our very essence and presence has a very profound affect.

There are times when we may feel disenfranchised or disconnected from the world. Yet, the truth is that our simplest thought or action – the decisions we make each day, and how we show up and relate to the world – can be incredibly significant and have a profound impact on the lives of those around us, as well as the world at large. I believe that the earth and everything on it is bound by an invisible connection between people, animals, plants, the air, the water, and the soil. Insignificant actions on our part, whether positive or negative, can have an impact on people and the environment that seem entirely separate from our personal realm of existence. Staying conscious of the interconnection between all things can help us think of our choices and our life in terms of the broader effect we may be creating.


It reminds me of a story of a young woman dressed in black!

”Blessings on your journey”


This past Mother’s Day weekend I had the pleasure to spend time with family and extended family.    I’m sure some of you did also.  For us, there was a granddaughters 8th birthday party on Saturday and Mother’s Day on Sunday.  These family gathering bring with them the opportunity to check in with family we don’t see everyday.  During a particularly  pleasant exchange with my favorite sister in law I received a special gift.  In our discussion, and as we looked around the gathering, she shared a unique view I don’t always see or focus on.  She said you are so lucky, look at all the beautiful relationships you have acquired in your life.  Beautiful grandchildren, a wonderful daughter and son in law, a gentle and kind son and girlfriend, joyus wife and uncle, friendly and gracious in laws and their children, you are so lucky.

While I don’t always sit in grace and appreciation at these events, caught up in the energy and distractions, I promise to do better.  I’ll begin with thanking this special sister in law for using her powerful voice, sharing her vision and recognizing how that vision can change the world.  It did mine!

“Blessings on your journey”


When we spend all of our time complaining, we are in essence in constant destroy mode rather than building mode.

We all know someone who has elevated the process of complaining to a high art. Sometimes funny, sometimes exhausting, these people have the ability to find a problem just about anywhere. In its more evolved form, complaining is simply the ability to see what’s not working, in one’s own life or in the external world, and it can be quite useful if followed to its natural conclusion–finding a solution and applying it. However, many of us don’t get that far, and we find that complaining has become an end in itself. In small doses, this is not a big problem, but if complaining has become a huge part of our identities, it may be time to take a good look at how we are spending our energy.

Complaining is a person’s way of acknowledging that they are not happy with the way things are. In a metaphorical way, when we complain or criticize, we are tearing down an undesirable structure in order to make room for something new. But if all we do is tear down, never bothering to summon the creative energy required to create something new, we are not fulfilling the process. In fact, we are at risk for becoming a stagnant and destructive force in our own lives and in the lives of the people we love. Another issue with complaining is that we sometimes tend to focus on other people, whom we can’t change, as a way of deflecting attention from the one person we can change–ourselves. So transforming complaining into something useful is a twofold process that begins with turning our critical eye to look at things we can actually do something about, and then taking positive action.

When we find ourselves complaining, the last thing we need to do is get down on ourselves. Instead, we can begin by noticing that we are in the mode of wanting to make some changes. But rather than lashing out at somebody or an organization, we can look for an appropriate place to channel this energy–not our neighbor’s house, but possibly parts of our own. Finally, we can ask ourselves the positive question of what we would like to create in the place of whatever it is we want to tear down. When we do this, we channel a negative habit into a creative process, thus using our energy to change the world around us in a positive way.

From my friend Madisyn Taylor

”Blessings on your journey”


I wrote this a year ago and wanted to share again.

The other day I wrote about being nice and how that could change the world. I think if you’ve tried it, or have been doing it all your life you realize that being “truly” nice can only be accomplished with compassion. True compassion recognizes that all the boundaries we perceive between ourselves and others are an illusion.

When I’m being compassionate, I feel and experience the ability to see the deep connectedness between myself and others. I recognize that all the obstacles and boundaries I perceive between myself and others are an illusion. When I first began to practice compassion, this very deep level of understanding may have eluded me, but with practice I was eventually able to feel my way toward it.  And, as with any skill, our compassion grows most in the presence of difficulty.

“Blessings on your journey”

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Listen generously

When you listen generously to people they can hear the truth in themselves, often for the first time.


Many of my posts have been written about holding space for each other, recognizing the need to be heard and valued.  This quote unveils the truth and power of what “listening generously” can bring about.  When we are in an argumentative or defensive stance we can not hear, we can only protect and project.  It suggests if we allow people to speak what they believe to be their truth they can drop their fight and hear the truth in themselves, perhaps even for the first time.  Let’s try that!!

”Blessings on your journey”

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