Wishing and wondering

Sometimes, I find myself wishing I knew what my life is going to look like or what gifts and challenges are going to be presented to me in the coming months or years. I try really hard to stay in the moment but on occasion my desire for more information gets in the way.  I dream and hope, I might consult psychics, tarot cards, and other sources in the hopes of finding out what the future holds. Usually, at most, I might catch a glimps.  And even though I think I would like to know the whole story in all its details, the truth is that I would probably be overwhelmed and fearful to know to much.

Other times I find myself wondering how long I’m going to even be here.  Interesting isn’t it?

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Cherish

Cherish your visions; cherish your ideals; cherish the music that stirs in your heart, the beauty that forms in your mind, the loveliness that drapes your purest thoughts, for out of them will grow delightful conditions, all heavenly environment; of these if you but remain true to them, your world will at last be built. ~ James Allen

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The next act

Yesterday I received a comment from a dear friend suggesting there are some things that never can be forgiven. She said you can accept it and move on but forgiveness is not always possible.  If after asking the three universal questions that’s what you come up with, so be it, that would be your resolution

What would You have me do?

Where would You have me go?

What would You have me say, and to whom?”

I have found for me that forgiving others is essential for my spiritual growth. Wayne Dyer says this about forgiveness: “Your experience of someone who has hurt you, while painful, is now nothing more than a thought or feeling that you carry around. These thoughts of resentment, anger, and hatred represent slow, debilitating energies that will dis-empower you if you continue to let these thoughts occupy space in your head. If you could release them, you would know more peace.”

As many of you know my mother gave up custody and all contact with me at the age  of three years old.  I will not bore you with the details (you can read about that in my book) but there was a time when I thought I could never forgive my mother or any parent who could do that to their child.  I use this as an example of how my thinking allowed me to carry thoughts of resentment and anger around with me that would surface from time to time.  On occasion I have flashbacks of these thoughts and my experience but for the most part I am at total peace with her, and the events that created it.

My three questions,

What would you have me do?  Love her, love my father, my family and the circumstances, but most importantly love myself

Where would you have me go?  I was moved to connect with her and her family at the age of 28 and more importantly, moved to be the best husband and father I could be!!

What would you have me say and to whom?  Tell both my parents and those who raised me that I love them. Tell my children I love them regularly.

Wayne Dyer among other many wonderful teachers I worked with in my life time were a great gift to me.  All of life’s experiences moved me forward on my spiritual path.  They provided me a vision and direction to move in.  Here is what Wayne Dyer says about our history.  “Your past history and all of your hurts are no longer here in your physical reality. Don’t allow them to be here in your mind, muddying your present moments. Your life is like a play with several acts. Some of the characters who enter have short roles to play, others, much larger. Some are villains and others are good guys. But all of them are necessary, otherwise they wouldn’t be in the play. Embrace them all, and move on to the next act.”

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Forgiveness

For the last few days I have been writing about throwing out HATE and FEAR.  Another way to look at throwing out hate is letting go of grievances.  Holding grievances is one of the roadblocks to our plan for freedom and transformational change.  If we are willing to let go of grievances, we can expect to change the very fabric of our human existence, and I believe we can and will do this in my lifetime. I also have come to believe this transformational change happens in its own time.  There are no guarantees we will wake up tomorrow transformed and no reasons why that isn’t possible.

One of the main players in our transformational journey is, “Forgiveness.”  Forgiveness is an idea often misunderstood but needed to be better able to work on our own healing.  One of the more memorable forgiveness events I can remember is the Amish school shooting in Pennsylvania in October 2006.

From NPR Investigations:

It was in the tiny community of Nickles Mines that a man stormed into a one-room schoolhouse and shot 10 young girls, killing five. He then killed himself.  Since the tragedy, people around the world have been inspired by the way the Amish expressed forgiveness toward the killer and his family.

Forgiving the Killer

Charles Roberts wasn’t Amish, but Amish families knew him as the milk truck driver who made deliveries. Last month, it was announced that the Amish community had donated money to the killer’s widow and her three young children. It was one more gesture of forgiveness, gestures that began soon after the shooting.

(Donald Kraybill, is a sociologist at nearby Elizabethtown College and co-author of Amish Grace: How Forgiveness Transcended Tragedy.)

“I think the most powerful demonstration of the depth of Amish forgiveness was when members of the Amish community went to the killer’s burial service at the cemetery,” Kraybill says. “Several families, Amish families who had buried their own daughters just the day before were in attendance and they hugged the widow, and hugged other members of the killer’s family.”

(Jonas Beiler, is the founder of the Family Resource and Counseling Center.)

Tragedy changes you. You can’t stay the same,” Beiler says. “Where that lands,you don’t always know. But what I found out in my own experience if you bring what little pieces you have left to God, he somehow helps you make good out of it. And I see that happening in this school shooting as well. One just simple thing that the whole world got to see was this simple message of forgiveness.”

Beiler says that because the Amish can express that forgiveness, and because they hold no grudges, they are better able to concentrate on the work of their own healing.

 

I leave you with todays lesson from the “Course in Miracles,” which speaks to the leap of faith these loving people made. Today’s lesson presents us with one of the greatest ‘prayers’, one of the greatest guidelines for action within the illusory universe that we can ever apply to any situation we appear to encounter at any place or any time. These words will give us the appropriate and specific response to absolutely any situation in which we feel the need to choose the guidance of our higher self.

“What would You have me do?

Where would You have me go?

What would You have me say, and to whom?”

 

 

”Blessings on your journey”

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Our biggest fear

Don Miguel Ruiz wrote, “Death is not the biggest fear we have; our biggest fear is taking the risk to be alive — the risk to be alive and express what we really are.”

Being fearful of the future takes an enormous amount of energy and drains the creativity and motivation from life. So, just for today, do your best to be less fearful. And, as you set your sights on the coming year, plan to do one small thing every day to express your own uniqueness.

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Decluttering

Spring cleaning seems to be the hot topic today.  Yesterday I suggested cleaning house and today the morning shows are instructing me on organizational thoughts and ideas for decluttering.  Pam Sherman in her weekly newspaper column opens with her article on the new rage in the world of decluttering, the user manual being the book, the Gentle Art of Swedish Death Cleaning. And, the Buffalo Bills traded Tyrod Taylor (more decluttering) making room for a new opportunity.       Apparently everyone is following my blog, lol.

In my most sincere desire to declutter our world, I would like to suggest we take this weekend and consider a couple specific things to throw out from our own houses.  Typically when we spring clean we throw out things we realize we dont need anymore. There might have been a time when it appeared useful but is useful no longer. If my list doesn’t resonate with you today, feel free to make up your own.

The first one to throw out  is HATE.  As we look around our house and find any crevice or corner in the attic or basement that harbors any old idea or useless behavior involving HATE, throw it out!!!  Hoarding hate for any reason is like filling all the cracks and openings that light can flow through.  It’s like keeping the blinds drawn so no one can see in, which by the way inhibits us from seeing out! It’s one of the most destructive and hurtful items we can have in our house.  Throw it out!

The next is FEAR.  Once we clear out the HATE, there should be nothing left to fear, right?  The problem with fear is it can be invisible and very hard to find.  It hides behind the curtains and under the bed.  It hides in the very fabric of the structure and is constantly telling us things will be OK, just stay the course, dont change anything and we’ll be safe.  It loves to keep us in check, dont change, we’re OK just the way we are. Then when all hell breaks loose it says, see, I told you so! OK, so we need to do a little more work with fear.

Maybe this weekend we can try to tackle just one fear.  Maybe its the one about calling that relative or friend that you haven’t talked to in months and your afraid they hate you.  Maybe its the one where you’re afraid to get started on your taxes because your afraid you’ll owe more.  Maybe you can find that perfect one for you, the one that’s been bothering you recently and throw it out.  It’s a start!! Let me know how you make out.

“Blessings on your journey”

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