How busy was your holiday?

There is more to life than increasing its speed. – Mahatma Gandhi

“The problem is that our love of speed, our obsession with doing more and more in less and less time, has gone too far,” author Carl Honoré writes, “it has turned into an addiction, a kind of idolatry.” So how can we allow ourselves to be more comfortable with leaving certain tasks undone, declining certain invitations, and inevitably, disappointing those we care about or to whom we’re accountable?

Technology will continue to advance and our responsibilities continue to increase. We cannot slow down our days’ progression, but we can bring more balance to our days, and redefine what it means to be productive, to take care of ourselves, and to make room for what we most enjoy.  What would your  behavioral choices look like if you were living the highest version of yourself?

“Blessings on your journey”

E(energy )=motion

Day 36 and 37

From my book “Living and Dying

The process of holding onto a belief and the hope of new life, both in our outer and inner world, is one that transforms us daily. Although we may not always be aware of it, our minds are processing this information daily as we navigate the battlefield of hope and despair, love and hate, resentment and forgiveness. It is a world of opposites that we battle with, and it is a world that many call reality. While we can choose not to have that be our reality, we are bombarded by the experiences and events that shape our “reality” through our attention to it.

“Living from Your Soul,” a course that Neil Donald Walsh moderates, has taught me how the process of creating our reality really works. More importantly, it has shown me how we choose to lose our connection with our source of being. In the course, I have come to learn about and experience how the mechanics of the mind and the system of the soul work. I would encourage any of you, if interested, to consider finding him online or to look for his books: Conversations with God, The Only Thing That Matters, and What God Said, in addition to many others.

When we consider the idea of “taking our temperature,” what we are doing is checking in with our internal nature, our divine spark, or how we feel at any given moment. If you are not doing it daily, I highly recommend you consider it. If we cannot experience the feeling, we become numb to what is happening around us on a daily basis. If we cannot feel, we cannot provide the necessary medicine to help in the healing. If we cannot feel, we cannot celebrate the moments of joy and love that permeate our lives daily. If we cannot feel, we are paralyzed. When being paralyzed affects our life (as it does to all of us at times), it means there is no movement. If there is no movement, there is no expression of energy and there is no emotion.


I would like to suggest that emotion is the key to our ability to live a healthy life. Without it, we are paralyzed. I have had many, many years of trying to maintain a state of being without emotion (just ask my wife), thinking this would lead to spiritual growth. For twenty years I tried to exercise my mental powers to achieve a higher state of awareness. Although I achieved awareness and knowledge of many spiritual truths, the experience of those truths were not felt or experienced, they were just ideas in my mind. At the time, it made perfect sense to me. I thought that because I was not experiencing feelings (things associated with the physical body), I must be living a spiritual existence.
What I’ve come to learn is that by not expressing the truths I had come to know, I had in fact created a self paralysis with no movement. I was just somebody who thought he was really spiritual and smart :-). If we try to ignore or limit our connection with the body and emotion, we limit our experience. If we deny this connection of spirit and body, we limit our experience. I now believe we were put here to experience it all.

What I have learned is that with emotion, life is more fun and interesting, and I am more passionate, caring and loving. It is the emotion, created by my thought, which causes a reaction. That reaction is the energy that creates activity and motion, and without it, there is no movement. If there were no emotion I would not be able to write this book, get up in the morning, or do anything. Emotion is the power that drives us and therefore, emotion plays an important part in the lives we live.

The energy associated with emotion is very strong and one that can be very difficult to embrace. It will cause us to move out of our comfort zone, and it will challenge us to what feels like a breaking point. It will feel large, in charge, and scary at times, but it has its purpose. It is there to move us toward something new. It is there to make us choose. It is there for our own good, to shock us out of our old patterns. It is there to be embraced and it will move us towards love. The dilemma in all of this is that we have a choice.

In the many years I devoted to limiting emotion in my life, I was in a constant war with myself. In my new experience of embracing and choosing emotion (e=motion) I have blossomed to do many new things and have grown in many ways. It has been challenging, and I do fall off course. But if I were to have to do it over again, I would choose the course of energy and motion.

I have always loved the quote “When in life have you learned the most, when everything was easy or when you were most challenged?” In my experience, all of my major growth has taken place in change and movement from one place to another. Perhaps that is why I chose funeral service. Is there any other experience that challenges us to move from one place to another that is more profound? I think not.

“Blessings on your journey”


Plan B

Day 35

Today is the last work day before the holiday weekend.  I thought it would be nice to fire up the wood stove at the cottage and spend a quiet evening before the weekend festivities.  I’ve just finished packing the wood rack with fire wood, which should last us a few months.  A little exercise with the wood pile always feels good when its done.  Now I’m sitting at the computer while Christmas music plays in the background.

While this all sounds so nice and it is, there are still fragments of frustrations, disappointments and concerns floating about in my mind.  Most of the time as I navigate the day those thoughts are fleeting but they still linger in the background.  Plan A, is to pull out the vodka and float into the numbness and mindlessness it affords me.  Plan B is to embrace the day, find the joy that is always hiding there, and focus on where I can give my love and attention.  It’s really all there is I can do that will raise the vibration and energy in my world.  It is the intention and vision I have for myself.  I will do this, Plan B!

What’s your plan?

“Blessings on your journey”

Winter solstice

So much to say and so little space in time.

Welcome the winter solstice.  The winter solstice — also known as Yule, Midwinter, the Shortest Day of the Year and the Longest Night — occurs at 11:28 a.m. ET Thursday.

But this short, little day with the great many names also may be the worst day of the year, according to astrologers. The reason? Saturn (not to be confused for satan)

Apparently, the sun will appear to pass in front of the constellation Capricorn hours after Saturn does likewise. This will cause both of these orbs to line up for the first time time since 1664, according to London astrologer Neil Spencer, who writes for The (London) Observer but first wrote about the alignment on his blog. Check it out!

He insists that starting something new on this day is “ill advised” and will have long-term consequences. And anything you try to do Thursday will be more difficult than usual, take more time and be more frustrating.

How was your day so far? I have experienced some frustration today and found it difficult to find an ingredient I needed for baking bread (lol).  Here’s hoping your well.

“Blessings on your journey”


Day 33


Last night at 11:00pm our funeral home staff met the plane of a fallen soldier.

From “Living and Dying” the book

Military funerals are a remarkable experience to witness. If any organization truly understands the privilege of attending to a ceremony celebrating life, it’s the military. I don’t care what branch or what age, the military does it right. There is an understanding of life and death on a very fundamental and real level in the military. They understand the sanctity of life, they understand the meaning of ceremony, and they understand reverence to death. If you have ever had the opportunity to witness a full military funeral, you know what I mean.

We’ve had the unfortunate task of attending to many military funerals at our firm. My most recent experience was memorable in that the local airport manager and security team had me over in advance to review the procedures in receiving the remains from overseas. We arrived at the designated time with our hearse and staff, and were escorted onto the airfield. When the plane arrived, the family was on the tarmac with our staff, the airport dignitaries, security team, airport fire department, and the local sheriff’s department.

As the plane came to a stop at the gate and shut down its engine, the military escort was asked to deplane and the passengers asked to wait to deplane until after the deceased veteran was transferred from the cargo hold. As I sit here today I can remember the tears welling in my eyes as I experienced the gratitude of a nation receiving a fallen soldier home. There was not a dry eye in the airport who witnessed this, and I can assure you it will not be forgotten by anyone there

The services for this Army officer took place over three days. A platoon of officers and enlisted men in attendance had specific instructions for attending to the family, our staff and the deceased veteran who had died in battle. I was so impressed with their attention to detail and their willingness to serve this honor of burial, that I spent extra time training and practicing with them on the specific details so I didn’t feel the need to have my trained staff involved. It was with gratitude, honor, and duty that these fine men and women performed their roles. If we could learn anything from the military, it’s the way they deal with their dead: with respect, gratitude, honor, and duty.

“Blessings on your journey”

Tears on my pillow

Day 32

Tonight I will speak with two ladies I spent a weekend with in Los Angeles.  In March this year I spent the weekend in a house with Camille, from Alaska and Sascha, from Australia.

Breakfast at Shutters on the beach

We were all there to connect with Kyle Cease and spend a three day intensive weekend.  It started out with me taking an extra day on the front side, and staying in Beverly Hills (swimming pools, movie stars) for my first night.  I had a bad experience with LA in my younger years and wanted to find out if I couldn’t turn that around.   I found my way to the Peninsula Hotel

If there was a better experience to be had in LA I’m sure it wouldn’t have surpassed the experience at the Peninsula.  The service component in the hotel rivaled anywhere I’ve stayed.  The pillow case in my room had my initials on them.

My Pillow

After resolving my LA issues by indulging myself in the lap of luxury, I found my way to our meeting place, a four bedroom house tucked up into the LA hillside for the weekend.

Our meeting started Friday afternoon and went until late Sunday night. It was intense and revealing on many levels.  Many a tear was shed as we journeyed towards a new sense of self and authenticity. The team with Kyle were very accommodating and supportive and continue to be.

Some of the team

As time has gone on, we have made the effort to touch base by phone, Skype, and through Facebook.  Each of us have made leaps and bounds along the way. We have all scraped our knees and bruised our muscles in the process.  Tonight we will spend whatever time it takes to get caught up on our journeys.  I feel blessed to know them and I know they feel the same.  Who do you know that you can say that about? Call them!

“Blessings on your journey”