The internet is not my friend today.

From my book “Living and Dying”

I have always loved the imaginative, intuitive mind. When revealed, it brings such connection and clarity for me. This connection has further led me to an awareness of something both profound and tangible. I refer to this awareness as the source. Whether you prefer to identify “source” as God, the Tao, Buddha, the Divine, Consciousness, or by any other name is completely your choice. This connection can and will open up the world and universe in its entirety to us as we connect individually and as a whole. It can be said that all beings or experiences are connected this way. If we were to simplify our lives, strip away our thoughts, judgments and fears for just a moment we would realize how easy it is to make this connection. If we were to accept this process of surrendering and trusting, we would learn and experience that all we need to do or know will be revealed to us.

These words remind me of the story of the man who falls from a cliff only to grab a limb thereby saving him from a painful demise. After many repeated calls for help and as the limb begins to unearth itself, a voice finally responds to his plea for help. The voice identifies itself as the Lord and replies that all the man needs to do is trust in him, surrender and let go. After a long pause you hear the man’s response, “Is there anyone else up there?”

”Blessings on your journey”

Moving day

Day 53, more than half way through my commitment of blogging for 100 continuous days.

Some days are difficult and others not!  While I enjoy the exercise of being authentic and writing what is on my mind it’s not always easy.   You could say its like life itself.  Somedays I feel like life’s on automatic pilot with success and accomplishment all around me, and others where I can’t get out go my own way or feeling like I’m falling into a black hole.  Today is one of those in between days.  I am feeling good but tired, bored but hopeful and calm but angry.

So for now I will just keep moving.  Moving along the path my life is taking today.  Hope you do too.

As Albert Einstein once said, “Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance you must keep moving”

“Blessings on your journey”

The songs we sing

Last night we had the privilege and pleasure of experiencing a local singer-songwriter perform in our home for a small group of family and friends.  Music has a way of filling up our senses, taking us to pleasurable places and leaving us wanting more, like John Denvers, Annies Song.

You fill up my senses
Like a night in a forest
Like the mountains in springtime
Like a walk in the rain
Like a storm in the desert
Like a sleepy blue ocean
You fill up my senses
Come fill me again

I have for years loved to listen to the tonal and rhythmic qualities of songs.  Now as I get older I have found more of a fondness for words and stories that the songs tell.  Adding thoughts about experience and telling stories finds its way direct to my heart.

While Chris Wilson is a wonderful talent and his music and story telling are unique and authentic, he is still just a man who plays a guitar and sings.  When we experience his talent it can open and reveal a place within us, a place of connection with our own story, our sacred and loving essence.  It is what happens within us that is the gift.  It is the essence of love in a complete circle of energetic connection.  The connection with our oneness, the gift received.

We too have our own instruments and songs that we sing in our work and play.  While it may not always be as obvious, that same connection exists in all places, space and time.   I can think of lots of friends (including you reading this) who are just as amazing.  People whose presence alone affect our world in magical ways.  People who create and bring new ideas and technology to our communities and our world.  People who provide loving care and comfort to many and people who are just damn good people (the list goes on).   As we go about our everyday tasks, take a moment to look around.  There is quite a story being told, quite a song being sung and quite a gift being received.


Here is a short video of Chris ( from last night.

“Blessings on your journey”



Death is not convenient!

Day 51 from my book “Living and Dying”

I have so many stories to share regarding living a healthy life because of my experience in the funeral business. Having to wake up every day and enter a world of loss has been a great gift to me. No day is the same and all I have to do is care about people. We should all have such a job!

People often joke how my job is recession proof or not affected by the economy. The saying “the only thing certain is death and taxes” comes to mind. You might be surprised that in the last forty years there have been significant and consistent changes. Probably one of the biggest differences or changes in the past few years is how important logistics has become. Years ago we did not have such a mobile society. People were born, raised and died in the same communities. Our children today are living, visiting and studying in other countries. We have families living apart while spouses travel to distant cities for work and then return on weekends for family time. Commerce is conducted on the internet—Skype and web casting are the new norms, to name just a few.

One interesting story where scheduling and logistics comes to mind is the death of one woman’s husband. In the arrangement process when it came time to schedule the funeral, I was told we needed to wait five weeks for the service as she was scheduled to leave for a cruise. Although this story is a rare occurrence, there are more and more families trying to work around scheduled plans and events. Most important to remember is “death is not convenient” and we need to accept the fact that sometimes we must be willing to change our plans to accommodate it. Being one of life’s most significant events you might think we would take notice and stop the world for a few days or weeks.

“Blessings on your journey”



Day 50 from my book “Living and Dying”

“For the 99 percent of the time we’ve been on Earth, we were hunter and gatherers, our lives dependent on knowing the fine, small details of our world. Deep inside, we still have a longing to be reconnected with the nature that shaped our imagination, our language, our song and dance, our sense of the divine.”
Janine M. Benyus

Connection – when we are able to be most vulnerable and transparent.

The experience of the death of a family member is one of the few guarantees we will have in life. It will happen, I guarantee it, yet it remains an event we continue to struggle with.  Let’s take a quick look at the average life experience. With the United State’s average life expectancy currently hovering at around 78.88 years, the age to which most Americans can expect to live is still forty-four years younger than the human life span. So how do we close that gap and elongate our lives? There will always be factors that are out of our individual control like our inherited genes, but we shouldn’t discount the impact of those that we can control. It is generally understood that closing the gap between life expectancy and life span can be done through healthier living, less exposure to toxins, the prevention of chronic illnesses, and a little bit of luck. The most common cause of death is heart disease.

We all know the common physical symptoms and issues of heart disease, but what is it that causes these physical changes? Science is finally looking at the cause of this breakdown. What is being discovered is that long term fear, frustration, anxiety, and disappointment are significant contributing factors in heart disease. These functions relate to our emotional experience (called hurt), which when activated is asking for the body and mind connection to be healed. If we don’t attend to these messages, or if we shut them down so as not to be recognized, our engines (our heart) will break down. In our current state of development, medicine is showing us that the human heart can last about seventy to one hundred years under these conditions.

I believe that Jesus, and others, said thousands of years ago that we all have the ability to live multi-centuries and that our bodies are designed to live this long. It is easy for me to understand the average death rates in the US because the first hundred years are the toughest. In our lifetimes we will lose everyone we have grown to love or care for. We will lose everything; people, pets, animals, jobs, relationships, homes, etc. With the level of technology so advanced, we will lose the world we have grown accustomed to and even mastered, many times.

Our struggle is with our inability to reconcile ourselves with the hurt associated with the loss of our world, and we don’t even know it. We are in a constant state of “re-construction” constantly recreating our place in the world of change and loss. When it comes to the loss of a loved one, the funeral has been, and continues to be one of the only effective experiences in our journey towards health and wellbeing since the beginning of time.

“Blessings on your journey”


We all have a story to tell, but sometimes we get stuck in that story and become our story.

Our own lives stories are filled and textured with our loved ones, friends and experiences that help shape how we see our world.  In that experience we can enter old patterns of life playing victim or it can be the open door to a new expression of self.  Either way, it is the story we accept that happens.

What story have you created for yourself?  Take a moment to examine and adjust as needed.  Choose support, love and forgiveness, and be kind to yourself.  After all it’s just a story of which you are the author.

“Blessings on your journey”



Changing Roles

Day 48

With all I’ve been through this past weekend, I thought this post in the Daily OM was most appropriate to offer today.

We all change throughout life trying new and different things, but the core of who we really are remains the same.
As we bob and weave with the ebb and flow of life our roles change, but our true self remains constant. As spiritual beings having a human experience, we go through many aspects of humanity in one lifetime. Living in the material world of opposites, labels, and classifications, we often identify ourselves by the roles we play, forgetting that these aspects shift and change throughout our lives. But when we anchor ourselves in the truth of our being, that core of spirit within us, we can choose to embrace the new roles as they come, knowing that they give us fresh perspective on life and a greater understanding of the lives of others.

Like actors on the stage of the world, our different roles are just costumes that we inhabit and then shed. Each role we play gives us another perspective through which to understand ourselves and the nature of the universe. When we take a moment to see that each change can be an adventure, a celebration, and a chance to play a new part, we may even be able to recapture the joyful anticipation of our youth as we transition from one role to the next.

“Blessing on your Journey”