From my book “Living and Dying”


“Go out, go out I beg you and taste the beauty of the wild. Behold the miracle of the earth with all the wonder of a child.” Edna Jaques

A good friend offered me a thought she had after reading this book, and it goes like this: “There are times when we want to shield the ones we love from pain. But the only true way to healing is through our pain. It is through our connection to those we have lost that we are able to find a peace in our hearts. It is through our connection that we ultimately find our peace”.
She also went on to say, “Connection exists in life, in death, and all places in between.”
I am personally very grateful for her input and openness because it reflects her willingness to embrace her connection and transition through life. It shows her willingness to live a life of emotion, experience, living in the moment, with an openness to change and growth in the midst of personal pain. A close and personal love was taken from her just a short time ago as it will and has happened to all of us. It is apparent that it is a challenge and a difficult transition as we work to understand the perplexity of life and death as we navigate our time, moment to moment, day to day. It is apparent that it is hard to embrace a new normal in forging new relationships while maintaining ones of old. Yet, I am confident that we can and will find a way. I am confident for her because she has acknowledged that the only true way to healing is through her pain. It is this simple truth, as difficult as it may seem at times, that will set all of us free.

“Set yourself free from anything that might hinder you in becoming the person you want to be. Free yourself from the uncertainties about your abilities or the worth of your dreams, from the fears that you may not be able to achieve them or that they won’t be what you wanted.
Set yourself free from the past. The good things from yesterday are still yours in memory; the things you want to forget you will, for tomorrow is only a sunrise away. Free yourself from regret or guilt, and promise to live this day as fully as you can.
Set yourself free from the expectations of others, and never feel guilty or embarrassed if you do not live up to their standards. You are most important to yourself; live by what you feel is best and right for you. Others will come to respect your integrity and honesty.
Set yourself free to simply be yourself, and you will soar higher than you’ve ever dreamed.”
– Edmund O’Neil

“Blessings on your journey”

The dungeon of my mind


FYI, It took me a little over an hour yesterday to go from feeling poorly to feeling amazing.  It happened while writing yesterdays post, when I realized what was dragging me down.  The thought being, I’m never quite good enough.  If I really dig deep, I often find that thought at the foundation of my thinking, fostered by feelings of abandonment, disappointment, and guilt amongst others.  It felt good to unearth that thought, as I didn’t realize it still lingered in the dungeon of my mind.  In fact, moments after realizing that thought, I found myself feeling better, even bordering amazing.  Although over an hour seems like a long time to write two paragraphs, it was worth it.  During that experience of observing, I became aware of what I needed to write and it changed how I am in the world.

We are constantly working on the balancing act of life, the battle (as the pictures suggests) between what we know and what we feel.  The cool thing is, it’s only a battle when we are in conflict.  Yesterday, I sat down and began to observe what I was feeling.  I observed that I was wearing my old moniker of not being good enough.  As an observer, having no conflict, I was willing to change my feeling poorly to feeling amazing, even happy.   Thanks for joining me.

“Blessings on your journey”

Analyze that!

Day 42

If I was to pick one thing I do that has the most detrimental affect on me personally, it would be this from yesterdays post. “It would appear that I spend an inordinate amount of time analyzing my unhappiness in order to find the causes and make improvements.  Personally, I have continually worked to understand and overcome difficult events and experiences to learn and grow from.  To be a better person, husband, father, friend, employer and teacher. To find the causes and make improvements.  In the big picture I’ve done a really great job, but at times I don’t feel like it.  My thinking is, if I was doing such a fine job I wouldn’t have made mistakes or errors in judgment in the first place.  Never quite good enough, an old moniker I wear around my neck today.

The article by Madisyn yesterday, spoke of the power we have to rise above and observe our feelings and emotions. We can recognize when we are feeling pain, guilt, loneliness, fear, peace, love, joy and content.  Recognition is the first step in adopting change.  If we are experiencing personal fears, disappointments, etc. we have the ability to become the observer and rise above them to a different lookout or viewpoint. While being the observer and not the victim we can retrace our steps to discover what may have put us in this frame of mind, and then we can take note of the choices we’ve made while there. In my personal experience I have found this process very rewarding, recognizing why it feels a particular way (not that I’ve always done something about it!).  I’m a slow learner at times, or maybe I’m just lazy.  Sometimes when we’re sad and depressed its hard to recognize.  Whatever the excuse is, I know there is a better way and that we are all on that same journey together. I can feel the energy of all of you and the way it moves in, out and through the very essence of our being.  I can feel the vibration and warmth.

Today, maybe I am good enough, in fact maybe I’m amazing and you are too.  Analyze that!!

“Blessings on your journey”





Recognizing happiness

Day 41

Because I’m having a hard time with recognizing happiness today, I thought I would share Madisyn Taylors thoughts on happiness.
“When we take the time to recognize when we are happy and what that feels like, it becomes easier to recreate.
Those of us on the path of personal and spiritual growth have a tendency to analyze our unhappiness in order to find the causes and make improvements. But it is just as important, if not more so, to analyze our happiness. Since we have the ability to rise above and observe our emotions, we can recognize when we are feeling joyful and content. Then we can harness the power of the moment by savoring our feelings and taking time to be grateful for them.

Recognition is the first step in creating change, therefore recognizing what it feels like to be happy is the first step toward sustaining happiness in our lives. We can examine how joy feels in our bodies and what thoughts run through our minds in times of bliss. Without diminishing its power, we can retrace our steps to discover what may have put us in this frame of mind, and then we can take note of the choices we’ve made while there. We might realize that we are generally more giving and forgiving when there’s a smile on our face, or that we are more likely to laugh off small annoyances and the actions of others when they don’t resonate with our light mood.

Once we know what it feels like and can identify some of the triggers and are aware of our actions, we can recreate that happiness when we are feeling low. Knowing that like attracts like, we can pull ourselves out of a blue mood by focusing on joy. We might find that forcing ourselves to be giving and forgiving, even when it doesn’t seem to come naturally, helps us to reconnect with the joy that usually precedes it. If we can identify a song, a picture, or a pet as a happiness trigger, we can use them as tools to recapture joy if we are having trouble finding it. By focusing our energy on analyzing happiness and all that it encompasses, we feed, nurture, and attract more of it into our lives, eventually making a habit of happiness”  BY MADISON TAYLOR from Daily OM.

It would appear that I spend an inordinant amount of time analyzing my unhappiness in order to find the causes and make improvements (caught on the hamster wheel).  It would probably be wise of me to take Madisyns advice.  Having a head cold doesn’t help any but I’ll keep trying. Wish me luck.

“Blessing on your journey”


Be the ball!

Day 40 of 100 daily posts.  I got this thought today. I hope you like it.

“Don’t be afraid to go where you’ve never gone and do what you’ve never done, because both are necessary to have what you’ve never had and be who you’ve never been”

Be the ball!

Much like the ball, life doesn’t always go where we intend it to.  Kick it, hit it, throw it, do something to it.  Do not be afraid of the opportunity.  Witness the surroundings and feel the exhilaration and the energy generated in its movement.  Watch how it bounces of the different surfaces, the speed it generates and its affect on the environment.  If we follow its movement, it can take us to new and exciting places.

“Blessings on your journey”

How busy was your holiday?

There is more to life than increasing its speed. – Mahatma Gandhi

“The problem is that our love of speed, our obsession with doing more and more in less and less time, has gone too far,” author Carl Honoré writes, “it has turned into an addiction, a kind of idolatry.” So how can we allow ourselves to be more comfortable with leaving certain tasks undone, declining certain invitations, and inevitably, disappointing those we care about or to whom we’re accountable?

Technology will continue to advance and our responsibilities continue to increase. We cannot slow down our days’ progression, but we can bring more balance to our days, and redefine what it means to be productive, to take care of ourselves, and to make room for what we most enjoy.  What would your  behavioral choices look like if you were living the highest version of yourself?

“Blessings on your journey”